Hi all, so i've been with my girlfriend for about 2 months. She has been very giving as she always buys me stuff for my apartment, cooks for me, hung up my clothes, and has told me that she loves me very much nad has initiated many of the dates. In addition, we've done everything but sex, and every time we meet, she gives me a BJ and I spend Friday nights with her. However, everytime I go home she always tells me to call when I reach and everytime (about 10 times) she has picked up the phone, even when sleepy. However, today I called her when I reached and she didn't pick up (as she was about to sleep when I left) so I let her know that I reached safely and look forward to seeing her tommorrow. So far ( its been almost 4 hours) and she hasn't returned my call yet. Is this something to be concerned about or I am just being paranoid? I mean, I've always been a DJ around her, making her laugh/smile and being a challenge so I don't think I've done anything to make her lose interest.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girlfriend hasn't returned call
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Was there any other change in her behaviour? Is she normally the sort of person who ignores people?
Don't worry about it anyway. Usually it's something small that has happened. Just act normally and don't contact her because she's see a major weakness there.
Don't worry about it anyway. Usually it's something small that has happened. Just act normally and don't contact her because she's see a major weakness there.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Didnt you post this a few days ago? Why havent you had sex with a girl youve been with for two months?
Hi slaog, I didn't notice any change in her behavior. We were making out before I left and she was her usual affectionate self. It was just the first time that she didn't pick up the phone (normally she picks up even when sleeping) when I called and me leaving her a message letting her know that i reached safely and didn't get a returned call (even though I didn't ask her to call me back). As a result, I was wondering if it was a red flag or just me being paranoid?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Probably you being paranoid.aek70850 said:
What usually happens is they change their behaviours and the man notices it. You didn't notice any change in her behaviour when you were with her so thats a good sign.Has she called yet?
She is busy blowing the linebackers from the high school football team. :crackup:
Chill out man. You're being so needy and desperate right now. If you were being a DJ before, then now you're being complete opposite of it.
And why haven't you put your penis inside her vagina yet? What do you need the key to her chastity belt?
Chill out man. You're being so needy and desperate right now. If you were being a DJ before, then now you're being complete opposite of it.
And why haven't you put your penis inside her vagina yet? What do you need the key to her chastity belt?
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It well never be that simple ... this you shall soon learn...aek70850 said:
disconnect from her... make her wonder where you are and why you have not called... or you will soon lose her.
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idiot, she alrady is banging some other dude hahahahaha
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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4 hours after you said she was falling asleep?
Is that a joke? She's probably asleep lol
Is that a joke? She's probably asleep lol
She tells you to call her when you get home to let her know you're safe? Unless you live in a war zone, it sounds like you got yourself a new Mother! Think about it: she cooks, cleans, washes your clothes, tells you to call her when you get home safely and doesn't have sex with you.
As for not returning your call after 4 hours, maybe she has a life too. Just a thought.
As for not returning your call after 4 hours, maybe she has a life too. Just a thought.