Hi all, so i've been with my girlfriend for about 2 months. She has been very giving as she always buys me stuff for my apartment, cooks for me, hung up my clothes, and has told me that she loves me very much nad has initiated many of the dates. In addition, we've done everything but sex, and every time we meet, she gives me a BJ and I spend Friday nights with her. However, everytime I go home she always tells me to call when I reach and everytime (about 10 times) she has picked up the phone, even when sleepy. However, today I called her when I reached and she didn't pick up (as she was about to sleep when I left) so I let her know that I reached safely and look forward to seeing her tommorrow. So far ( its been almost 4 hours) and she hasn't returned my call yet. Is this something to be concerned about or I am just being paranoid? I mean, I've always been a DJ around her, making her laugh/smile and being a challenge so I don't think I've done anything to make her lose interest.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Was there any other change in her behaviour? Is she normally the sort of person who ignores people?
Don't worry about it anyway. Usually it's something small that has happened. Just act normally and don't contact her because she's see a major weakness there.
Don't worry about it anyway. Usually it's something small that has happened. Just act normally and don't contact her because she's see a major weakness there.
oakraiderz2
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Didnt you post this a few days ago? Why havent you had sex with a girl youve been with for two months?
Hi slaog, I didn't notice any change in her behavior. We were making out before I left and she was her usual affectionate self. It was just the first time that she didn't pick up the phone (normally she picks up even when sleeping) when I called and me leaving her a message letting her know that i reached safely and didn't get a returned call (even though I didn't ask her to call me back). As a result, I was wondering if it was a red flag or just me being paranoid?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Probably you being paranoid.aek70850 said:
What usually happens is they change their behaviours and the man notices it. You didn't notice any change in her behaviour when you were with her so thats a good sign.Has she called yet?
She is busy blowing the linebackers from the high school football team. :crackup:
Chill out man. You're being so needy and desperate right now. If you were being a DJ before, then now you're being complete opposite of it.
And why haven't you put your penis inside her vagina yet? What do you need the key to her chastity belt?
Chill out man. You're being so needy and desperate right now. If you were being a DJ before, then now you're being complete opposite of it.
And why haven't you put your penis inside her vagina yet? What do you need the key to her chastity belt?
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It well never be that simple ... this you shall soon learn...aek70850 said:
disconnect from her... make her wonder where you are and why you have not called... or you will soon lose her.
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idiot, she alrady is banging some other dude hahahahaha
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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4 hours after you said she was falling asleep?
Is that a joke? She's probably asleep lol
Is that a joke? She's probably asleep lol
She tells you to call her when you get home to let her know you're safe? Unless you live in a war zone, it sounds like you got yourself a new Mother! Think about it: she cooks, cleans, washes your clothes, tells you to call her when you get home safely and doesn't have sex with you.
As for not returning your call after 4 hours, maybe she has a life too. Just a thought.
As for not returning your call after 4 hours, maybe she has a life too. Just a thought.