my gf got hammered at a bar with a bunch of coworkers, all guys. this one guy who has a gf apparently followed her to where the bathrooms were and kissed her. she wasnt down with it. how would you handle this? she plans on going out again with these guys
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
girlfriend got kissed at a bar by coworker
- Thread starter dtrg
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
You know what to do.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
dtrg said:
Just think about this for a moment logically.
This was no random guy, she knew him.
This guy was obviously confident enough to think that she will reciprocate his advances. Why did he think this way? because he had a really good relations with her and did not fear her rejection even though she has a boyfriend and they are coworkers.
When you kiss somebody its quite difficult to have a sneak attack kiss. The other person has to be stand relatively still in order for the other person (the guy) to lean in and plant a kiss on the lips. Are you telling me she never saw this coming and couldn't move her head?!
After he kissed her, where was the outrage? did she slap him and go home!? nope! by the sounds of things she is planning to go out with those guys again and get hammered . Is there something wrong with this picture? I think so! why aren't you invited?!
Next time it might be his d1ck in her mouth, so I am curious how she is going to explain that one.
Why are you tolerating your GF going out drinking with a bunch of male co-workers? For Chrissakes.
This whole business of guys letting their girlfriends do whatever they want to do is absolutely insane.
dtrg...your girl has NO respect for you. Chicks I've dated have tried that **** with me and they found out very quickly my zero tolerance policy.
This isn't a red flag. It's a hundred of 'em.
This whole business of guys letting their girlfriends do whatever they want to do is absolutely insane.
dtrg...your girl has NO respect for you. Chicks I've dated have tried that **** with me and they found out very quickly my zero tolerance policy.
This isn't a red flag. It's a hundred of 'em.
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
That's like me telling my wife (even if we weren't married) "I went to a bar with a couple of women I work with and one of them kissed me. I told her I wasn't cool with it but I'm going out to with them again."
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Yup, now that's an abundance mindset. lolDaddy The Pimp said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Exactly my thoughts when i first read your post. She knows what to expect from these guys: lots of attention and flirtation that will escalate into something more sexual (so far only kissing, but who knows what will happen next time?). Since she still wants to go out with them, she definitely digs it... Are you cool with that?Scars said:
Also, how do you know she only kissed the guy? how do you know she wasn't really down with it? For both these facts you re relying on her version of the story. Since she was hammered at the time it's very possible that she was feeling horny and wanted to get some action.
If this is the only thing that ever went wrong in your relationship, then no big deal, but if there's a history, or if other things are not straight, you should seriously think about w/er this is the kind of relationship you want to be in.
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why do you need to have a girlfriend?
she isn't respecting your commitment to her
she isn't respecting your commitment to her
Sir_Turtle
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Lol chick BS. I'd bail on her quick as i could.