my gf got hammered at a bar with a bunch of coworkers, all guys. this one guy who has a gf apparently followed her to where the bathrooms were and kissed her. she wasnt down with it. how would you handle this? she plans on going out again with these guys
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
girlfriend got kissed at a bar by coworker
- Thread starter dtrg
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
You know what to do.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dtrg said:
Just think about this for a moment logically.
This was no random guy, she knew him.
This guy was obviously confident enough to think that she will reciprocate his advances. Why did he think this way? because he had a really good relations with her and did not fear her rejection even though she has a boyfriend and they are coworkers.
When you kiss somebody its quite difficult to have a sneak attack kiss. The other person has to be stand relatively still in order for the other person (the guy) to lean in and plant a kiss on the lips. Are you telling me she never saw this coming and couldn't move her head?!
After he kissed her, where was the outrage? did she slap him and go home!? nope! by the sounds of things she is planning to go out with those guys again and get hammered . Is there something wrong with this picture? I think so! why aren't you invited?!
Next time it might be his d1ck in her mouth, so I am curious how she is going to explain that one.
Why are you tolerating your GF going out drinking with a bunch of male co-workers? For Chrissakes.
This whole business of guys letting their girlfriends do whatever they want to do is absolutely insane.
dtrg...your girl has NO respect for you. Chicks I've dated have tried that **** with me and they found out very quickly my zero tolerance policy.
This isn't a red flag. It's a hundred of 'em.
This whole business of guys letting their girlfriends do whatever they want to do is absolutely insane.
dtrg...your girl has NO respect for you. Chicks I've dated have tried that **** with me and they found out very quickly my zero tolerance policy.
This isn't a red flag. It's a hundred of 'em.
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
That's like me telling my wife (even if we weren't married) "I went to a bar with a couple of women I work with and one of them kissed me. I told her I wasn't cool with it but I'm going out to with them again."
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Yup, now that's an abundance mindset. lolDaddy The Pimp said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Exactly my thoughts when i first read your post. She knows what to expect from these guys: lots of attention and flirtation that will escalate into something more sexual (so far only kissing, but who knows what will happen next time?). Since she still wants to go out with them, she definitely digs it... Are you cool with that?Scars said:
Also, how do you know she only kissed the guy? how do you know she wasn't really down with it? For both these facts you re relying on her version of the story. Since she was hammered at the time it's very possible that she was feeling horny and wanted to get some action.
If this is the only thing that ever went wrong in your relationship, then no big deal, but if there's a history, or if other things are not straight, you should seriously think about w/er this is the kind of relationship you want to be in.
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why do you need to have a girlfriend?
she isn't respecting your commitment to her
she isn't respecting your commitment to her
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Lol chick BS. I'd bail on her quick as i could.