We are not living together but to be honest sometimes i do feel like she isnt giving me the respect i should be getting..but mostly i do get respect....how is ur view of to act like a "man"...normally when i do touch her i she doesnt mind at all....sure it depends were i do touch her,what mood.etc.i guess i think about this intimacy sex thing to much and should concentrate on attracting her more to me.but then again im a man.its just when i get her to laugh and have a fun day together that i get rejected so to speak and then i get mad sortof...she started today with cramps and i saw her tampons in her handbag..so guess its that time again...gheez.. Any tips on romancing her?and still stay in control...and making her what me more?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girlfriend gets angry,why??
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Jake, again, have you had sex with her before?
A girl who likes you and wants you sexually shouldn't be knocking you back like this and shouldn't get angry when you touch her.
Honestly, how many 'girlfriends' would get angry if you touched their ass?? If they're into you they like it and show it (giggle, smile, whatever).
Something's definitely *wrong*
A girl who likes you and wants you sexually shouldn't be knocking you back like this and shouldn't get angry when you touch her.
Honestly, how many 'girlfriends' would get angry if you touched their ass?? If they're into you they like it and show it (giggle, smile, whatever).
Something's definitely *wrong*
dannyegg4575
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jeez... all this time you slept together and you never had sex with her? how long have you been seeing her?
and you probably never will.Jakes21 said:No i havnt had sex with her
Sorry Jake but:
A) she ain't your girlfriend, but a friend (sex is the only thing that seperates the two)
B) She is not attracted to you (whether intially she had mild attraction is long gone. Women who are attracted to a man will initiate sex, instead of waiting for the man to beg for it.)
C) She has issues.
D) So do you.
Read the DJ Bible.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dannyegg4575
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Guys... easy on the guy.
how old are you jake? Are you a virgin? Is she a virgin?
I'll tell you a secret. When a girl hangs out with a guy for a long time and he doesn't make a move, he gets the LJBF status. That's right, he becomes her gf.
I was so dumb, i listened to a coworker of mine who I thought was a player. His name is Sanford. As i started learning more about this stuff, I come to realize all the **** I learn from him were lies. I never realized how chodey he is and that he got his girls because of his status.
Don't be her girlfriend man. It's disgusting to her so she can't fathom it.
If you kissed her, that's cool. If you held her hand that's cool. But if you dated her for a long time and you never had sex with her, it's not her fault. It's yours.
how old are you jake? Are you a virgin? Is she a virgin?
I'll tell you a secret. When a girl hangs out with a guy for a long time and he doesn't make a move, he gets the LJBF status. That's right, he becomes her gf.
I was so dumb, i listened to a coworker of mine who I thought was a player. His name is Sanford. As i started learning more about this stuff, I come to realize all the **** I learn from him were lies. I never realized how chodey he is and that he got his girls because of his status.
Don't be her girlfriend man. It's disgusting to her so she can't fathom it.
If you kissed her, that's cool. If you held her hand that's cool. But if you dated her for a long time and you never had sex with her, it's not her fault. It's yours.
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Find 2 new women to FJakes21 said:How do i fix this?
Nah we never slept together.shes 19 ,im 23..she lives with her parents and is still a virgin....we had a couple of close calls but ya....today we were touching eachother playfully and slapping eachothers hands and my hand touch one of her breasts...which she said "hey..." and smiled...i just smiled and said "oops"...maybe i shouldve said something else...but she didnt got mad...how do u guys recommend me getting her in the mood?we've ben dating 2 years nw
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If it's been two years it's hard to say dude. I've never met a couple that held up for so long without any sexual contact... good for you?
anyway dude, it's not that hard to romance a girl if she's interested in you.
Almost anything you do will turn her on. But you have to be willing to do the small things. ie. write her little notes each day. give her some romantic ****... call her in the middle of the day just to say hi and ask her how her day was.
These little things add dividends. You don't have to do big stuff... small stuff that makes her smile. That's all it takes.
And when time comes, candlelight dinner. works for me every time.
watch a romantic movie together. sometimes i don't know how i get myself through it but it works like a charm!
anyway dude, it's not that hard to romance a girl if she's interested in you.
Almost anything you do will turn her on. But you have to be willing to do the small things. ie. write her little notes each day. give her some romantic ****... call her in the middle of the day just to say hi and ask her how her day was.
These little things add dividends. You don't have to do big stuff... small stuff that makes her smile. That's all it takes.
And when time comes, candlelight dinner. works for me every time.
watch a romantic movie together. sometimes i don't know how i get myself through it but it works like a charm!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
3countriesPlan
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Here is my advice. Does she put out? Answer with one word. Are you satisfied accidentally feeling up on her or getting soft kisses? Do you want your relationship to be like that? You need to go out and get what you want. Simplify your mindset. If she is not performing well then you need to begin looking somewhere else. As she is able to reject you for so long it looks like she won’t be breaking down anytime soon. Putting that much effort for some tang is a waste of time.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
If you are not happy in a relationship. Get out of it.
girls are not like us! they can't just fvck on a dime. they need to be stimulated and turned on to get them in the mood. you have to be slow and sensual. is she a virgin? i hope not! maybe deem the lights a little, turn on some music, you gotta set the mood man!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wjh
Master Don Juan
Lol. This shows how little you know. Bad advice.
dannyegg4575 said:When was the last time you actually romance this woman?
Spontaneously surprise her with romance...
If she is rejecting you now, there has to be a reason. You don't need to do much dude, speak to her and see if something's up.
when was the last time you had sex? And how often do you actually get her "ready" for sex?
do you just pull down your pants and just go "LETS GO BABY????!"
seriously dude, she has to be ready for it.
Talk to her softly, not necessarily have sex with her. The point is to make her feel safe. let her know and feel you're not treating her like a piece of meat for GOD'S SAKE!
one night, talk to her, whisper in her ears, hey, good night baby... that's it.
romance.. you know the drill... all that jazz... i'm getting goosebumps...
wjh
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False. I've banged girls in my car under very unromantic settings. If she's higly attracted to you none of the romantic crap is necessary.
yama600rr said:girls are not like us! they can't just fvck on a dime. they need to be stimulated and turned on to get them in the mood. you have to be slow and sensual. is she a virgin? i hope not! maybe deem the lights a little, turn on some music, you gotta set the mood man!
wjh
Master Don Juan
Bingo.Wolf said:but what you should know, is that you shouldn't be wasting your time with her.