"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girlfriend called me her ex'es name.. what to do?

Capt.America

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we were having a conversation about how girls will always still yearn for the guy who took her virginity and how those guys own them. I asked her who owns her as a playful question and she says " bob, I mean you own me". she did call me by her ex name before but that was before we made it exclusive
I got angry and I told her to get out but she kept apologizing and hugging on me and saying it was a mistake and a slip of the tongue. she said that she dosent feel for him anymore, don't talk to him or see him ( they broke up a year ago ). but i still made her get out and leave what should I do here? I like her a lot and shes been treating me pretty well no red flags or anything .
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Starfvcks 64

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I have called girls the wrong name several times, and somehow always managed to recover without much issue.

I get why you would see what she said as a bad thing, and other guys will probably agree with you, but I don't necessarily think it's that bad.

I don't know if I can do a good job explaining what happens, but i'll try.
I once was in a long term relationship where I lived with a girl for two years. After we broke up I started dating again and I would call the new girl my exes name when conversation started to feel natural. It's natural to think that I must have been thinking about my ex, but I wasn't. I just felt comfortable around the new girl, like I did when I was with my ex.
Tbh, I even called my sister my exes name before on accident. When you spend a lot of time with one person, and then have similar discussion in similar tones with someone else, it's easy to understand how you could get names mixed up.

I get coworkers names mixed up too.

She may have said her exes name because she felt like she was talking to her ex. That may not be a good thing, but it doesn't mean she was THINKING about her ex, if that makes sense.
 

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You did the right thing. Wait till she texts you or calls. If she apologizes again, accept it. By demonstrating that you won't tolerate that, 99.999% chance that she will never do it again.
 

Leprechaun2013

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Good thing she didn't call his name out during sex.:crackup:

Don't let her start disrespecting you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zekko

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Capt.America said:
we were having a conversation about how girls will always still yearn for the guy who took her virginity and how those guys own them.
I don't believe this is true. Either women are hypergamous and are thus looking to move up from that first guy or they aren't. I tend to believe in the hypergamy theory rather than this.
 
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