"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girlfriend called me her ex'es name.. what to do?

Capt.America

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we were having a conversation about how girls will always still yearn for the guy who took her virginity and how those guys own them. I asked her who owns her as a playful question and she says " bob, I mean you own me". she did call me by her ex name before but that was before we made it exclusive
I got angry and I told her to get out but she kept apologizing and hugging on me and saying it was a mistake and a slip of the tongue. she said that she dosent feel for him anymore, don't talk to him or see him ( they broke up a year ago ). but i still made her get out and leave what should I do here? I like her a lot and shes been treating me pretty well no red flags or anything .
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Starfvcks 64

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I have called girls the wrong name several times, and somehow always managed to recover without much issue.

I get why you would see what she said as a bad thing, and other guys will probably agree with you, but I don't necessarily think it's that bad.

I don't know if I can do a good job explaining what happens, but i'll try.
I once was in a long term relationship where I lived with a girl for two years. After we broke up I started dating again and I would call the new girl my exes name when conversation started to feel natural. It's natural to think that I must have been thinking about my ex, but I wasn't. I just felt comfortable around the new girl, like I did when I was with my ex.
Tbh, I even called my sister my exes name before on accident. When you spend a lot of time with one person, and then have similar discussion in similar tones with someone else, it's easy to understand how you could get names mixed up.

I get coworkers names mixed up too.

She may have said her exes name because she felt like she was talking to her ex. That may not be a good thing, but it doesn't mean she was THINKING about her ex, if that makes sense.
 

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You did the right thing. Wait till she texts you or calls. If she apologizes again, accept it. By demonstrating that you won't tolerate that, 99.999% chance that she will never do it again.
 

Leprechaun2013

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Good thing she didn't call his name out during sex.:crackup:

Don't let her start disrespecting you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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zekko

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Capt.America said:
we were having a conversation about how girls will always still yearn for the guy who took her virginity and how those guys own them.
I don't believe this is true. Either women are hypergamous and are thus looking to move up from that first guy or they aren't. I tend to believe in the hypergamy theory rather than this.
 
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