"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girlfriend asks "What's your biggest insecurity"

The_Lifter

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My LTR asked me this yesterday, at first I gave a funny answer and she laughed, then she asked me again, which was cool as I knew she would. I gave it some thought and said. "Sometimes I feel that I don't apply myself to my [university] work as completely as I should and then I get frustrated when I don't do well." I didn't want to say anything that would give her the power, like saying "cheating" or something similar. But I have two questions.

1) Why is she asking things like this, does she think I'm too dominant or does she want me to open up more?

2) Any suggestions for a better response?

Cheers.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vampire

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It's your girlfriend, man. No need to play games at this point (I hope). That seems like a pretty solid answer. As to why she asked, maybe she just wants to know you better. Vulnerability creates intimacy and bonding.
 

spider_007

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Vampire said:
Vulnerability creates intimacy and bonding.
...and too much of it makes the relationship turn "wierd"

You should only show her enough to let her know your human.
 

mrRuckus

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Vampire said:
It's your girlfriend, man. No need to play games at this point (I hope). That seems like a pretty solid answer. As to why she asked, maybe she just wants to know you better. Vulnerability creates intimacy and bonding.

She'll use it against you at some point in an argument. That's not why she's asking but she most likely will.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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