"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girlfriend asks "What's your biggest insecurity"

The_Lifter

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My LTR asked me this yesterday, at first I gave a funny answer and she laughed, then she asked me again, which was cool as I knew she would. I gave it some thought and said. "Sometimes I feel that I don't apply myself to my [university] work as completely as I should and then I get frustrated when I don't do well." I didn't want to say anything that would give her the power, like saying "cheating" or something similar. But I have two questions.

1) Why is she asking things like this, does she think I'm too dominant or does she want me to open up more?

2) Any suggestions for a better response?

Cheers.
 

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Vampire

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It's your girlfriend, man. No need to play games at this point (I hope). That seems like a pretty solid answer. As to why she asked, maybe she just wants to know you better. Vulnerability creates intimacy and bonding.
 

spider_007

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Vampire said:
Vulnerability creates intimacy and bonding.
...and too much of it makes the relationship turn "wierd"

You should only show her enough to let her know your human.
 

mrRuckus

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Vampire said:
It's your girlfriend, man. No need to play games at this point (I hope). That seems like a pretty solid answer. As to why she asked, maybe she just wants to know you better. Vulnerability creates intimacy and bonding.

She'll use it against you at some point in an argument. That's not why she's asking but she most likely will.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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