"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girlfriend Asked To Borrow Money

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I mean, what can you even buy with $25 that is so important that you can't wait until your next paycheque?

Condoms.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I mean, what can you even buy with $25 that is so important that you can't wait until your next paycheque?

Condoms.

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Press the reply button.
 

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Just imagine that if the roles were reversed and he was asking her for $25.

The perception would be he needs to get off his lazy ass and find a job so that he can make his own way in life. Yet because this is a young girl, she's just a damsel in distress and somebody needs to help her out. What a f****** double standard.

OP I strongly suggest you elevate your taste in women and move on from this chick.
I actually think that asking someone for something is a power thing and that as a man he should have the respect for himself to not lose his power for the sake of 25 dollars, even if it is only social power, while as a woman she won't lose the respect from the man and therefore doesn't lose power.

Also, double standards are a perfectly normal thing as you cannot hold the same standard to women as you can men, in some regards. Standards are set by people as a way of maintaining social order. If you want the order to be that women should behave the same as men in all social aspects, then complaining about double standards is right. But if you expect females to act like ladies then you need to give them a different set of social rules.
 

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25 bucks is a big thing regarding trust. If she can't be trusted handling it, then there's no point in borrowing her the money. Once you're too soft in this matter, you'll ruin your own future. You are the mystery. Not her. She's using an old trick to manipulate you. I smell trouble.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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