Girlfriend acting mad at me for acting like an a*s, when it's her who is the as*hole

[shark]

My GF acted a little mad at me for being an ass. I kinda striked back saying she was the one being the real as*hole as she didnt call me ( i didnt either) for like 3 nights, then when i got back i didn't call her (her cell was broken, and in order to call her house i wouldve had to call a friend which would seem desperate). She suggested i shouldve asked her friend for her house and i was lke..are you kididng you coudlve called me from your house since i had my cell. thats ALOT easier.

Then she hung up on me a few times when she was babysitting and fighting with her sister but then she apoligzed. I was with some of my friends and we were talking for 15 minutes so i said i was gonna go, and she started sayin how she hates me and doesnt want to talk but instead she wants to see me so badly..on and on for a minute or 2 then before i can talk she hangs up again. Now she has an away message notifier only that says she is mad at me.

I REALLY like her so i can't just next her..instead should i give in to her as this is all kinda silly? Or do i fight for my position...how do i handle this ****?

 

[azn_alex]

LOL im in almost the exact same position

this girl is cheating on her bf with me, and last week she stopped calling me, so i stopped talking to her altogether. now shes real pissed off at me for nothing basically

how u handle it? act like u're fine without her, continue life as per normal and then she will break eventually

if u meant something to her, she wont just forget about u that easily

 

[Alphathree]

Do NOT tolerate this bull****. Do not "Fight for your position"

It's really simple. She's disrespecting you, and you're going to ask plain-as-day for an apology. You're not going to demand one. Just ask.

If she doesn't want to give you one, then politely suggest that maybe she needs more time to think about how she's been treating you.

DO NOT do ANY of this with a VENGEANCE. Do it matter of factly, seductively even. But not with anger.

 

[shark]

well she's mad at me, and she even suggested that she wasn't sure if I had the balls to call her house phone (with her family who can answer it). Do I call her today or what?

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by shark
well she's mad at me, and she even suggested that she wasn't sure if I had the balls to call her house phone (with her family who can answer it). Do I call her today or what?

Ignore. There's no reason to let some woman push you around.

 

[josh1]

DON'T !
Continue your life normal without her, she'll come back.

 

[shark]

I'm pretty sure she wants me to call her. The thing is, this isn't a girl i'm willing to next. I know her, and she will become even more angry if i don't call or initiate convo somehow. I just want to be on good terms and forget this whole thing, being on bad terms is just making me sick.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

My advice would be to call her, but not to make up.. tell her that she is being completly unreasonable, you won't stand for it. and that a simple apology on her part will suffice.

This is really kinda stupid.... think about it. She's pissed over a phone call that didn't happen. big deal..

I just lost a bit of intelligence, replying to this, I think

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by shark
I'm pretty sure she wants me to call her. The thing is, this isn't a girl i'm willing to next. I know her, and she will become even more angry if i don't call or initiate convo somehow. I just want to be on good terms and forget this whole thing, being on bad terms is just making me sick.

This ISN'T a girl you're WILLING to NEXT?

Dude, seriously, get off the this board and out of the PUA community. Go ask some AFCs for advice.

I don't mean to be overly harsh, but we can't help you.

Your position is one of fear, desparation, and neediness.

When this relationship ends, and it will eventually, SHE will next YOU. You will then be in a very sour position indeed and wish you had taken our advice right now.

 

[shark]

Originally posted by Alphathree
This ISN'T a girl you're WILLING to NEXT?

Dude, seriously, get off the this board and out of the PUA community. Go ask some AFCs for advice.

I don't mean to be overly harsh, but we can't help you.

Your position is one of fear, desparation, and neediness.

When this relationship ends, and it will eventually, SHE will next YOU. You will then be in a very sour position indeed and wish you had taken our advice right now.

So, you have a girlfriend and things are great. You have one fight, thats pretty stupid...and you reccomend nexting her. This isn't a girl i went out with a few times, it's my girlfriend of about
2 1/2 months. I think this situation can be easily taken care of, and i'm just seeking the best way to do so. You don't just next a girl for any little thing...

Sure, i'd next the girl if we were just hookinhup...but since its my girlfriend and feelings are involved i'm just not into that over this little, stupid fight. You still disagree? I can't see it logical to end a relationship b/c of this.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

he's not saying end the relationship.

He means that you need to be of a mindset where no matter what, you should be able to just walk away. It can hurt alot, but you have to be a man and just do it, sometimes....Believe me, I went through this 2 months ago.

I walked on a girl I was absolutley in love with, and she with me... but some things were just beyond repair so I walked with my pride and my balls in hand.

No, this isn't a situation where you should just next her... but you gotta stop being a little pansy about it. This is a sh!t test... it really is, and you're supplicating to her...... she really wants you to put her in her place and call her B.S..... though she'd never tell you. She wants to know that you can keep your composure and handle it LIKE A MAN

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by shark
So, you have a girlfriend and things are great. You have one fight, thats pretty stupid...and you reccomend nexting her. This isn't a girl i went out with a few times, it's my girlfriend of about
2 1/2 months. I think this situation can be easily taken care of, and i'm just seeking the best way to do so. You don't just next a girl for any little thing...

Sure, i'd next the girl if we were just hookinhup...but since its my girlfriend and feelings are involved i'm just not into that over this little, stupid fight. You still disagree? I can't see it logical to end a relationship b/c of this.

You don't have to END the relationship

You have to be WILLING to end it.

Go read my posts in this thread. No where did I say "break up with her".

But the things I recommend do require an inner game that says, "well, if this gets bad, I *have the strength* to break up with her".

If you don't have that strength, you are nothing but her slave for as long as she wants you.

 

[shark]

If things got bad, and it was like this all the time..i have more respect for myself and I would end it. I wouldn't be able to take disrespect and stuff like that so yeah, i'd be willing to end it...but NOT to end it for THIS SPECIFIC incident.

I just fear finding someone who will meet my standards like she does. (her looks, social status is perfect for me). This is my first girlfriend, b/c i am so dam picky. But i WOULD end it, just not for this is what im trying to say.

 

[Lost In Translation]

shark
she started sayin how she hates me

what do you think she means by that ?

shark
then before i can talk she hangs up again

a pattern. what does her DISRESPECTFUL behaviour mean ?

shark
I wouldn't be able to take disrespect and stuff

how is hanging up on you all the time not disrespectful ?

ask yourself what is going through a young womans mind when she plays this GAME

it is a sick power trip. it makes her feel POWERFUL. it is also a test to see what you reaction will be.

like a small child being naughty she is testing her limits

HOW MUCH CAN SHE GET AWAY WITH

you smack the child and let them know their boundaries

woman WANT boundaries and they play this GAME as way of looking for a MAN strong enough to control them

BE THAT MAN or she will find someone who fits the bill


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[Big Eee Zee]

Originally posted by azn_alex
LOL im in almost the exact same position

this girl is cheating on her bf with me, and last week she stopped calling me, so i stopped talking to her altogether. now shes real pissed off at me for nothing basically

how u handle it? act like u're fine without her, continue life as per normal and then she will break eventually

if u meant something to her, she wont just forget about u that easily

Low dude...

Don't be such a b!tch, get your own girl. Friggin' lowlife.

 

[ikkenai]

Originally posted by Alphathree
This ISN'T a girl you're WILLING to NEXT?

Dude, seriously, get off the this board and out of the PUA community. Go ask some AFCs for advice.

I don't mean to be overly harsh, but we can't help you.

Your position is one of fear, desparation, and neediness.

When this relationship ends, and it will eventually, SHE will next YOU. You will then be in a very sour position indeed and wish you had taken our advice right now.

Listen to this man.

 

[shark]

**Update--she left me a message and called me and said that it was a joke b/c she wanted to see me so badly last nite..and honestally that is what it sounded like when she was telling me she hated me in her whiney voice. I told her alot of people asked me about it and i just told her and them that i kinda knew it was nothing. Anyway, she said something about hanging up on me like she was sorry and i said somehwat jokingly that she was an ******* and she kinda laugped and was like yah i know. She thinks its all funny that people thought we were really in a fight and wants me to play along and make a message like i hate her too. She told me she loved me and just needs and needed to see me so badly and wants to tonight and will find a way even though she is not supposed to be allowed out.

MY QUESTION---do i bring up the issue and tell her how she disrespected me and ask for an apology? Or do i kinda just brush it off, and if something were to ever come up like this again i bring it up.

 

[BigFoot]

She obviously likes you alot and is having problems dealing with that. Just forget about the incident - I'm sure there will be other issues between the two of you, and so what - if the fundamentals are good those things don't matter.