"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl With Boyfriend

servo1234567

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I've got a problem with a pretty good girl. I like this chick and she likes me but we're not really in a great situation. She's been seeing a guy for about a year and a half. She's got a pretty good guy for a boyfriend. I like him and actually we're friends. We talk everyday. Lately she's been flirting with me, talking to me, and very active on msn messenger with me. I sent her an e-mail and she was very quick about responding. I was actually e-mailing to ask about a friend of hers but it changed quickly when she started talking. We've been talking a while and I found out she's not doing anything tomorrow. Should I ask her to do something?
I like her but I don't really know how moral I'm being about spending time with another guy's chick.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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servo1234567

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Update:

I asked her to go with me tomorrow and she said she would if her boyfriend didn't get mad. I think I'm still going but it's probably a better idea to hold off on her for now. She knows I'm interested and if she is so can make the next move.
 

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Thats a difficult decision man. Do you value the friendship of her boyfriend? I can almost guarentee if "anything" at all happens between you and the chick your going to lose a friend. I have been in the same situation and it turned out horrible. When you said "We talk everyday" was that you and her or you and her boyfriend. If your put in the position where you have the opportunity to talk to her bf every day (sit next to him in school etc...) I really think it would be a bad idea. I'm not the one to make the decision though. Just think everything out before you do something you regret.

Good luck with your decision
 

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I say go out and find nice poontang that isn't taken.
 

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I agree with lik, and would like to add... "He who takes a womans pootang that is already taken, recieves a whoopin."

So basically only something bad could happen from this. Go find you another girl.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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