Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl with boyfriend

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I said it already: abundance and will. The rest comes from this two. Aloofness? You know that you have tons of options, so you don't get specially involved with this particular one. Acceptance of reality? You want to impose your will to live life in your terms, in the long run you are going to have to accept reality for what it is. Big social circle? You know that the more abundance of contacts you have, the more power you bear. Not initiating contact? Hell, I used to do this conciously, now I have other things going on as to worry myself as if I'm going to lose a girl or not.

From where did the definition come? I don't know, you can say it is my definition, it is the kind of alpha I want to be. As for the Coreys and prisioners, yes, they are alpha, but they are dumb ****s. There are alpha dumb ****s and alpha intelligent guys, the later will succeed.
Isn't what your describing, when it comes to abundance mentality and having options etc what we would describe as the Don Juan, the seducer? Isn't that what this site originally started as, to get good with the opposite sex, which needs, by all accounts, a shift in mentality......

Of course the whole game you could say has evolved from pick up lines (the personality ethic) to developing oneself from within (the character ethic) and becoming a man who naturally attracts women.....a lifestyle change....

So is the Don Juan dead, long live the alpha? Do you consider yourself a Don Juan or an Alpha? or neither?

Just navigating the subject.......but it just does seem a rather black and white definition of masculinity..............

The alpha....isn't he a pack leader? For such a limit definition of masculinity we have here (going by the threads) a multitude of perceptions and ideas and inventions of what it means to be alpha........
 

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Isn't what your describing, when it comes to abundance mentality and having options etc what we would describe as the Don Juan, the seducer? Isn't that what this site originally started as, to get good with the opposite sex, which needs, by all accounts, a shift in mentality......

Of course the whole game you could say has evolved from pick up lines (the personality ethic) to developing oneself from within (the character ethic) and becoming a man who naturally attracts women.....a lifestyle change....

So is the Don Juan dead, long live the alpha? Do you consider yourself a Don Juan or an Alpha? or neither?

Just navigating the subject.......but it just does seem a rather black and white definition of masculinity..............

The alpha....isn't he a pack leader? For such a limit definition of masculinity we have here (going by the threads) a multitude of perceptions and ideas and inventions of what it means to be alpha........
Alpha can express itself under many forms. You have your prisioner alphas, they will end up with trashy girls as you pointed out. You have your leader of the pack alphas, they will most surely end up with a high quality girl from his social circle. You have the DonJuan, who will never get attached. You have the rebel alpha, to be found in many political/social movements, he will have "rebel" girls.
Charles Manson, Donald Trump, any of the pros in SoSuave, Jim Morrison. All of them alphas, each one of them can be categorized with one of the labels I used earlier, and yet, they are very different.
 

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Alpha can express itself under many forms. You have your prisioner alphas, they will end up with trashy girls as you pointed out. You have your leader of the pack alphas, they will most surely end up with a high quality girl from his social circle. You have the DonJuan, who will never get attached. You have the rebel alpha, to be found in many political/social movements, he will have "rebel" girls.
Charles Manson, Donald Trump, any of the pros in SoSuave, Jim Morrison. All of them alphas, each one of them can be categorized with one of the labels I used earlier, and yet, they are very different.
CuddleJunkie: "Women seem wicked when you're unwanted"- Beta bitterness summarized.

That's Jim Morrison who you say is alpha above, but a bitter beta here.......

Just challenging your concepts...........and wondering if these labels actually benefit us or hinder us............
 

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There's really no advice on making a girl cheat, it's all based on if she's willing to or not. All you should do is escalate, it's harder for her to say no when she's horny but you can still get shot down.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tbh I'm actively rooting against the OP here, i hope the girl has enough moral fiber not to cheat on her bf and i'd hope that OP stops being desperate enough to screw over his fellow man for random pvssy (it obviously wouldn't be OP's fault if she cheats, but it's still not cool to actively seek out girls with bfs to try to get them to cheat)
 

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CuddleJunkie: "Women seem wicked when you're unwanted"- Beta bitterness summarized.

That's Jim Morrison who you say is alpha above, but a bitter beta here.......
But those lyrics doesn't mean he thought wonen were wicked, but that when you are unwanted they seem to be. Maybe he was an incel before being in The Doors
 
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