"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I said it already: abundance and will. The rest comes from this two. Aloofness? You know that you have tons of options, so you don't get specially involved with this particular one. Acceptance of reality? You want to impose your will to live life in your terms, in the long run you are going to have to accept reality for what it is. Big social circle? You know that the more abundance of contacts you have, the more power you bear. Not initiating contact? Hell, I used to do this conciously, now I have other things going on as to worry myself as if I'm going to lose a girl or not.

From where did the definition come? I don't know, you can say it is my definition, it is the kind of alpha I want to be. As for the Coreys and prisioners, yes, they are alpha, but they are dumb ****s. There are alpha dumb ****s and alpha intelligent guys, the later will succeed.
Isn't what your describing, when it comes to abundance mentality and having options etc what we would describe as the Don Juan, the seducer? Isn't that what this site originally started as, to get good with the opposite sex, which needs, by all accounts, a shift in mentality......

Of course the whole game you could say has evolved from pick up lines (the personality ethic) to developing oneself from within (the character ethic) and becoming a man who naturally attracts women.....a lifestyle change....

So is the Don Juan dead, long live the alpha? Do you consider yourself a Don Juan or an Alpha? or neither?

Just navigating the subject.......but it just does seem a rather black and white definition of masculinity..............

The alpha....isn't he a pack leader? For such a limit definition of masculinity we have here (going by the threads) a multitude of perceptions and ideas and inventions of what it means to be alpha........
 

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Isn't what your describing, when it comes to abundance mentality and having options etc what we would describe as the Don Juan, the seducer? Isn't that what this site originally started as, to get good with the opposite sex, which needs, by all accounts, a shift in mentality......

Of course the whole game you could say has evolved from pick up lines (the personality ethic) to developing oneself from within (the character ethic) and becoming a man who naturally attracts women.....a lifestyle change....

So is the Don Juan dead, long live the alpha? Do you consider yourself a Don Juan or an Alpha? or neither?

Just navigating the subject.......but it just does seem a rather black and white definition of masculinity..............

The alpha....isn't he a pack leader? For such a limit definition of masculinity we have here (going by the threads) a multitude of perceptions and ideas and inventions of what it means to be alpha........
Alpha can express itself under many forms. You have your prisioner alphas, they will end up with trashy girls as you pointed out. You have your leader of the pack alphas, they will most surely end up with a high quality girl from his social circle. You have the DonJuan, who will never get attached. You have the rebel alpha, to be found in many political/social movements, he will have "rebel" girls.
Charles Manson, Donald Trump, any of the pros in SoSuave, Jim Morrison. All of them alphas, each one of them can be categorized with one of the labels I used earlier, and yet, they are very different.
 

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Alpha can express itself under many forms. You have your prisioner alphas, they will end up with trashy girls as you pointed out. You have your leader of the pack alphas, they will most surely end up with a high quality girl from his social circle. You have the DonJuan, who will never get attached. You have the rebel alpha, to be found in many political/social movements, he will have "rebel" girls.
Charles Manson, Donald Trump, any of the pros in SoSuave, Jim Morrison. All of them alphas, each one of them can be categorized with one of the labels I used earlier, and yet, they are very different.
CuddleJunkie: "Women seem wicked when you're unwanted"- Beta bitterness summarized.

That's Jim Morrison who you say is alpha above, but a bitter beta here.......

Just challenging your concepts...........and wondering if these labels actually benefit us or hinder us............
 

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There's really no advice on making a girl cheat, it's all based on if she's willing to or not. All you should do is escalate, it's harder for her to say no when she's horny but you can still get shot down.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tbh I'm actively rooting against the OP here, i hope the girl has enough moral fiber not to cheat on her bf and i'd hope that OP stops being desperate enough to screw over his fellow man for random pvssy (it obviously wouldn't be OP's fault if she cheats, but it's still not cool to actively seek out girls with bfs to try to get them to cheat)
 

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CuddleJunkie: "Women seem wicked when you're unwanted"- Beta bitterness summarized.

That's Jim Morrison who you say is alpha above, but a bitter beta here.......
But those lyrics doesn't mean he thought wonen were wicked, but that when you are unwanted they seem to be. Maybe he was an incel before being in The Doors
 
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