There's a girl I'm interested in, the catch; she has a boyfriend. I think what I should do is just next her, for now. I'm pretty sure that I've taken it as far as it can go as long as she has a boyfriend. I'm just gonna wait it out until they break up or I just forget her. What do ya think.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girl with a boyfriend
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Two viewpoints on this.
Boyfriends don't matter.
BUT it takes the right situation to follow through.
Don't date girls with boyfriends... don't try to break up girls with boyfriends...
The only situation where boyfriends shouldn't cross your mind... is if its a one time late night, after club hookup. One Night Stands with a chick with a BF don't matter..... otherwise leave it.
Boyfriends don't matter.
BUT it takes the right situation to follow through.
Don't date girls with boyfriends... don't try to break up girls with boyfriends...
The only situation where boyfriends shouldn't cross your mind... is if its a one time late night, after club hookup. One Night Stands with a chick with a BF don't matter..... otherwise leave it.
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Nearly every hb8-9-10 has a boyfriend. If you were to go for single chicks, you'd have to holla at ugly girls.
WC2
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Do you get out much?nismo-4 said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Timing is critical with girls with BFs ... everything must fall into place and you must assure her that its safe and stealthy so she is comfortable... and you need to listen to her for hints that they are on the rocks...
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nismo-4 said:
you are right and 99% of those HB8s and 9s cheat on their BFs that is how they get new BFs.... so get in line spit your game and wait your turn
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To be honest, I spend more time in entertainment trying to get that major deal than getting chicks, since that deal will get me and everyone else in the company (it's all guys, 6 to be exact, who when it comes to women, make Beavis and Butt-Head look smart) laid continuously. For right now, we focus on that and getting noticed on myspace. It seems that we've all HAD to fail with getting women until we get famous. Otherwise, I noticed most women don't even need a man in their life! Apparently, we all sit at home and network our myspace pages. I now have nearly 18k friends and 47k profile views.WC2 said:
When out clubbing, even with wingmen, we've all failed miserably. The women checked out OTHER WOMEN!!! No, that's not a typo.
In day game, I've gotten women interested, yet when I make a move I get chewed out like a dumbass.
I've become more psychic, and I started future sighting everything. It's spared me from rejection many times, but I can't find out when to make a move. I don't even know the right way to ask a girl out! All the ways I know are totally wrong and are sure-fire ways to get rejected.
Next her. It's far more easier to get a girl without a boyfriend, and I'm not particularly a fan of guys chasing after girls who are currently in a relationship unless you feel her boyfriend is not treating her properly.
Has she shown any major indicators of interest? (Serious flirting, extra long hugs, kino, etc.) If not, I wouldn't bother. Don't wait for her, time is precious, go out there and catch another big fish!
Has she shown any major indicators of interest? (Serious flirting, extra long hugs, kino, etc.) If not, I wouldn't bother. Don't wait for her, time is precious, go out there and catch another big fish!
if you can internalize this fact properly that you don't care if she has a boyfriend or not...whether you'll ever bed her or not...if you'll ever meet her again or not...and just go and flirt with her just because you like doing it...
I promise you can bed her in a week....
sherineo
I promise you can bed her in a week....
sherineo
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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What you need to do is STOP cupcaking and obsessing over a girl with a boyfriend and then get out there and get yourself a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend. How would you like it if there was some guy sniffing and lingering around your girl, plotting and scheming, asking around on the internet how to take her off you?