"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi!

I just renewed my gym card, and was served by a hot chick. She introduced me to the routines and I flirted w/ her a bit. (She doesn't work the times I'm going there, but I will talk to her about administrative stuff in a week. Should I proceed, and if so, how?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I guess you missed the other 200 threads by guys trying to bang the flirty front desk girls at their gyms.

Their job is to be flirty and welcoming. It's what they do. If they were ugly, mean and quiet, they wouldn't have gotten hired.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
I guess you missed the other 200 threads by guys trying to bang the flirty front desk girls at their gyms.

Their job is to be flirty and welcoming. It's what they do. If they were ugly, mean and quiet, they wouldn't have gotten hired.
^Amen^

That's all I was thinking when I saw the title....
 

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EvilAgenda said:
Unless you want an administrative job there, why the heck would you bring that up?
I think he means that he has to talk to her about payments, billing and/or other "administrative" things.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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good thinking guys hehe... next... :p and yes, billing stuff...
 

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EvilAgenda said:
Oh, I see, Mantis. Thanks.

If you like her, sbgm, and you see an opportunity, of course you go for it. You will learn something regardless of what happens during your interaction.

Don Juan doesn't turn his power on and off, it's always present. So you always go for it.
Ah, b*ow me.

I'll ask your permission next time I offer an opinion. So you won't get mad.
 

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You'll have a lot of competition. I work at a health club and it's just full of beautiful people. Also being on front desk she's probably like that with nearly everyone, unless you can form a more genuine bond or attraction then you're just one of many guys. There'll be a fair few people she'll be particularly chatty with and that's mostly dependent on them, a lot of people just use the facilities and don't bother getting to know the staff, so just make conversation and do your thing and go from there. It's also good to become friendly with the staff anyway, you'll get better deals on things, get priorities for things like popular classes, a couple of unofficial freebies. I'm personally partial to slipping a free protein shake or coffee to my favourites. (And no not the merely the hot ones, just the members that are always friendly and chat to me)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So, now this gym chick calls me up, being nice and saying that I have to fill out some extra paperwork. This could mean that she are interested in me, but also most likely it's just that I need to fill out some extra paperwork. I'm thinking about giving this a shot. What is the best way to ask her out? Should I even do that?

peace guys
 

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sbgm said:
So, now this gym chick calls me up, being nice and saying that I have to fill out some extra paperwork. This could mean that she are interested in me, but also most likely it's just that I need to fill out some extra paperwork. I'm thinking about giving this a shot. What is the best way to ask her out? Should I even do that?

peace guys
You're losing already... Stop thinking too much. Chances are you're over-analyzing everything and she genuinely needs you to fill out some extra paper work. Worst thing you can do is play yourself.

From my understanding, she is an employee at the gym. I know you'd hate to hear this, but boss, she's nice to everyone. I'm pretty confident you aren't the only person she's called that day; there are other gym members beside you.

That said, provided you still want to pursue, you have to treat her like every other female. Get her number as quick as possible, and, contingent on her response, her interest in you will finally be determined. She gives it to you, you'd be able to count it off as more than just a professional attitude. She denies your request, then you now know the smiles, the politeness, the calls--- all strictly business.

But please man, do not play yourself. I get the feeling she is genuinely doing her job, and you don't want to have your membership revoke, or worst, by playing up on something that isn't real.
 
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