"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girl was trying to be ****y with me.

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this was part of a phone conversation i had with a HB9. so i said to her : lets get together after your exams for a bit and if you turn out to be a really boring person, i'll tell you i have to go home and feed my dead rabbit.

she : -laughs- dead rabbit?!

me : yes. dead rabbit! alright, i've got stuff to do. i'll catch up with you soon.

she : i'll text you if i'm bored.

me : pfffffft. when you're bored? don't bother. why don't you go watch some telly? i've got better things to do than to sit around entertaining you just because you're 'bored'.

she : -laughs. don't you dare regret it.

me : i wont. -hangs up



just want your opinions. did i handle the situation correctly? this girl was being real ****y with me.

shes on the right :)

 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hey man, please post a follow up to this to see how she responds (if she does)

i'm curious how this works out, it is probably the right attitude to have with this girl but i wonder if it will actually help with this particular girl
 

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Originally posted by jakeyboy
if you turn out to be a really boring person, i'll tell you i have to go home and feed my dead rabbit.


I like the dead rabbit idea. Its funny, and weird.

BUT

you're basically telling her that she has to lead the date. you're putting pressure on you both.

depending on where you're game is at, its a risky move.

After that statement you should be taking her on the funnest date shes ever had. Will you be?

if not, you're setting yourself up for a fall.
 

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You was the one who initiated being ****y here.

Originally posted by jakeyboy
lets get together after your exams for a bit and if you turn out to be a really boring person, i'll tell you i have to go home and feed my dead rabbit.
Sounds like some David D. advise here. I don´t like this overall idea of being ****y and funny. You come over here like being kind of insecure and you are the one who starts with being ****y, later on she only reacts to the frame you are coming from.

Guys using this method usually come away like having fear of getting rejected. If u would have use a simple "let´s get together, I really like to see you" there would probably not have been any ****yness from her. ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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good stuff man, just keep building on it. You have to appreciate the irony when someone gives you a taste of your own medicine.
 

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Originally posted by silenthill
You think shes a 9? :crackup:

I'm with silenthill (Great game by the way)... she is a 7 at best, at least to me
 

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the thign about 7's, 8's and 9's are the difference between being CUTE and SEXY.


That girl in the pic is CUTE, not SEXY, therefore she is not an 8 or an 9.

You don't rate Sexy women 7's

On the contary, you rate CuTE women 8's or 9's.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She was testing you. I think you passed the test.
 

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From the pic I think she is pretty good looking.

Dont rate girls in terms like 7, 8, 9.

Only rate her 0 or 1. You want her or you want her not. Apart from this what other people think of her is totally uninteresting. Only think that matters is what YOU think and want.
 

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Originally posted by milkman
From the pic I think she is pretty good looking.

Dont rate girls in terms like 7, 8, 9.

Only rate her 0 or 1. You want her or you want her not. Apart from this what other people think of her is totally uninteresting. Only think that matters is what YOU think and want.
True, but the rating system is more fun it has a lot more flexablity.
 

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pardon me if i'm being biased here based on looks. i've got a really soft spot for asian chicks. :p

ah dunno. ****y + funny seems to work best for me. too much funny you look like a clown, too muck ****y you look insecure and like an a-hole.

so i guess its just a matter of balancing it out :)
 

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And learning how to be ****y and funny is the most fun...being a clown you can make up for...but being a a$$ is much harder.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by jakeyboy
pardon me if i'm being biased here based on looks. i've got a really soft spot for asian chicks. :p

ah dunno. ****y + funny seems to work best for me. too much funny you look like a clown, too muck ****y you look insecure and like an a-hole.

so i guess its just a matter of balancing it out :)
Forgot all those people saying she's only a 7! I would give her an 8 or 8.5. Although, I too have a soft spot for asians or any girl who is cute and has features of someone from another country. In a way being "cute" can be more attractive than someone who is just "sexy". Lots of times they seem to have more personality and are more enjoyable to spend time with outside of sex!

Anyways, good luck to you! Sounds like you've been reading and applying David D.'s stuff. is it workin well for you?
 

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nobody said anything was wrong with being Cute... every girl I date/sleep with isn't a 9... cute women are.. well.. cute..

But the fact remainds, she is CUTE, ,not SEXY. Doesn't mean I wouldn't get her phone numbe ror game her up, but looking at her doesn't get my testosterone flowing like looking at a 8 or a 9 would. doesn't mean I wouldn't bang her however, but you get the point.

what i am saying that even though she is CUTE, there is nothing wrong with it
 
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