"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl was trying to be ****y with me.

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this was part of a phone conversation i had with a HB9. so i said to her : lets get together after your exams for a bit and if you turn out to be a really boring person, i'll tell you i have to go home and feed my dead rabbit.

she : -laughs- dead rabbit?!

me : yes. dead rabbit! alright, i've got stuff to do. i'll catch up with you soon.

she : i'll text you if i'm bored.

me : pfffffft. when you're bored? don't bother. why don't you go watch some telly? i've got better things to do than to sit around entertaining you just because you're 'bored'.

she : -laughs. don't you dare regret it.

me : i wont. -hangs up



just want your opinions. did i handle the situation correctly? this girl was being real ****y with me.

shes on the right :)

 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hey man, please post a follow up to this to see how she responds (if she does)

i'm curious how this works out, it is probably the right attitude to have with this girl but i wonder if it will actually help with this particular girl
 

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Originally posted by jakeyboy
if you turn out to be a really boring person, i'll tell you i have to go home and feed my dead rabbit.


I like the dead rabbit idea. Its funny, and weird.

BUT

you're basically telling her that she has to lead the date. you're putting pressure on you both.

depending on where you're game is at, its a risky move.

After that statement you should be taking her on the funnest date shes ever had. Will you be?

if not, you're setting yourself up for a fall.
 

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You was the one who initiated being ****y here.

Originally posted by jakeyboy
lets get together after your exams for a bit and if you turn out to be a really boring person, i'll tell you i have to go home and feed my dead rabbit.
Sounds like some David D. advise here. I don´t like this overall idea of being ****y and funny. You come over here like being kind of insecure and you are the one who starts with being ****y, later on she only reacts to the frame you are coming from.

Guys using this method usually come away like having fear of getting rejected. If u would have use a simple "let´s get together, I really like to see you" there would probably not have been any ****yness from her. ;)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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good stuff man, just keep building on it. You have to appreciate the irony when someone gives you a taste of your own medicine.
 

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Originally posted by silenthill
You think shes a 9? :crackup:

I'm with silenthill (Great game by the way)... she is a 7 at best, at least to me
 

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the thign about 7's, 8's and 9's are the difference between being CUTE and SEXY.


That girl in the pic is CUTE, not SEXY, therefore she is not an 8 or an 9.

You don't rate Sexy women 7's

On the contary, you rate CuTE women 8's or 9's.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She was testing you. I think you passed the test.
 

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From the pic I think she is pretty good looking.

Dont rate girls in terms like 7, 8, 9.

Only rate her 0 or 1. You want her or you want her not. Apart from this what other people think of her is totally uninteresting. Only think that matters is what YOU think and want.
 

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Originally posted by milkman
From the pic I think she is pretty good looking.

Dont rate girls in terms like 7, 8, 9.

Only rate her 0 or 1. You want her or you want her not. Apart from this what other people think of her is totally uninteresting. Only think that matters is what YOU think and want.
True, but the rating system is more fun it has a lot more flexablity.
 

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pardon me if i'm being biased here based on looks. i've got a really soft spot for asian chicks. :p

ah dunno. ****y + funny seems to work best for me. too much funny you look like a clown, too muck ****y you look insecure and like an a-hole.

so i guess its just a matter of balancing it out :)
 

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And learning how to be ****y and funny is the most fun...being a clown you can make up for...but being a a$$ is much harder.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by jakeyboy
pardon me if i'm being biased here based on looks. i've got a really soft spot for asian chicks. :p

ah dunno. ****y + funny seems to work best for me. too much funny you look like a clown, too muck ****y you look insecure and like an a-hole.

so i guess its just a matter of balancing it out :)
Forgot all those people saying she's only a 7! I would give her an 8 or 8.5. Although, I too have a soft spot for asians or any girl who is cute and has features of someone from another country. In a way being "cute" can be more attractive than someone who is just "sexy". Lots of times they seem to have more personality and are more enjoyable to spend time with outside of sex!

Anyways, good luck to you! Sounds like you've been reading and applying David D.'s stuff. is it workin well for you?
 

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nobody said anything was wrong with being Cute... every girl I date/sleep with isn't a 9... cute women are.. well.. cute..

But the fact remainds, she is CUTE, ,not SEXY. Doesn't mean I wouldn't get her phone numbe ror game her up, but looking at her doesn't get my testosterone flowing like looking at a 8 or a 9 would. doesn't mean I wouldn't bang her however, but you get the point.

what i am saying that even though she is CUTE, there is nothing wrong with it
 
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