"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl was checking me out, but not anymore

SayWhat

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Thanks for your responses, I'm going to go deeper into it when i have some more time and figure out what I have to do.

But I don't understand anymore. Today I was crossing her and before we crossed she said hi to my colleagues who were 5m from me in a group. She didn't even look at me or said hi, afterwards in the cantine I noticed her looking at me intensely (althoug I'm not 100% sure, maybe she was just dreaming in my direction). But still
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Honestly what do I have to do to get her out of my head or at least 'turn' her around. I see her talking to my colleagues and I get jealous and think why won't she talk to me?
 

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Honestly what do I have to do to get her out of my head...
You have to grow up.

You can expedite this process by getting as much experience with woman as possible. Or, just keep doing what you're doing and wait 10-20 years.

Your call.
 

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I hope :). It's just that I currently have no time to go out and meet woman (hell I never did it actively in my life). Besides you haven't seen the ass on that thing...

But I feel that I'm wasting my 'good times' and hate especially the fact of all the missed opportunities because of the lack in my social skills.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A small update on this situation. Of course in these months, nothing has changed, I still haven't talked to her because I'm too shy.

If you think that's pathetic, let me fill you in on the recent stuff:

I've had a stressful period at work where I was doubting if I was going to be fired. Today I got the result from my tests and they turned out very good, so I can stay. I never really knew if this girl had a boyfriend or not, I assumed it of course, but was not sure. Today I also heard that this is the case.

And now for the 1 million dollar question: what do you think what is most on my mind, the fact I can stay working at my dream job or the fact she is taken.

Jesus why do I keep putting myself in these situations, I know this is pathetic, that my work is number 1 priority. But still this girl, to which I haven't said a word to, to which I know I f*cked up overall because I 'know' her for half a year and didn't take any action, she still has this impact on my life to the fact that even with one of the best news I could get, still overshadows this fact...

The hardest part is that I know all this, that it's not right, but still I can't stop thinking about it...
 
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