Hey guys, I posted about this girl the other day when she invited me out to dinner with her friend. Well, it turns out things are a bit more complicated than I initially realized.
Let me give some background: The first time we met, we made out for a long time at a party and I think she was a bit embarrassed about it (or at least pretended to be) because on our first actual date after that she asked me a couple of questions referencing to it. ("I made out with you the other night and I don't even know your full name!").
Then, on the third date, she stayed for part of the night, but we'd had too much to drink and I couldn't perform. Nonetheless, for our next date she wanted me to come on a double-date with her bff and bff's boyfriend, which seemed a bit odd to me so early on. And, before that, she said she wanted to "talk" with me, and proceeded to ask me if I saw things as a "fling" or a "relationship." I said neither - that I didn't see it as a fling, but it's way too early to commit to a relationship, and that we should just be having fun with each other. She agreed with this, but then suggested we take things a bit more slowly. She also half-apologized for it, saying she has "trust issues"...
Now, I know the first impression for a lot of you is gonna be that she's playing me a little bit, but I honestly think she's a cool girl that's maybe just a bit screwed up in the head. However, we've been out 4 times now (5 if you count the party) and if we go out a couple more times without anything happening then things will start getting ridiculous and I think if we go any longer than that without sex then I'll end up in the friend-zone.
I'm willing to go out with her 1-2 more times after her little speech, but after that, if she refuses, I'm wondering how to broach the subject and make it clear that I want things to either move forward or break off, without making it too obvious an ultimatum or making her feel uneasy in case she does actually have some issues that I'm not aware of. Kind of a sensitive issue, I think... thoughts appreciated...
Let me give some background: The first time we met, we made out for a long time at a party and I think she was a bit embarrassed about it (or at least pretended to be) because on our first actual date after that she asked me a couple of questions referencing to it. ("I made out with you the other night and I don't even know your full name!").
Then, on the third date, she stayed for part of the night, but we'd had too much to drink and I couldn't perform. Nonetheless, for our next date she wanted me to come on a double-date with her bff and bff's boyfriend, which seemed a bit odd to me so early on. And, before that, she said she wanted to "talk" with me, and proceeded to ask me if I saw things as a "fling" or a "relationship." I said neither - that I didn't see it as a fling, but it's way too early to commit to a relationship, and that we should just be having fun with each other. She agreed with this, but then suggested we take things a bit more slowly. She also half-apologized for it, saying she has "trust issues"...
Now, I know the first impression for a lot of you is gonna be that she's playing me a little bit, but I honestly think she's a cool girl that's maybe just a bit screwed up in the head. However, we've been out 4 times now (5 if you count the party) and if we go out a couple more times without anything happening then things will start getting ridiculous and I think if we go any longer than that without sex then I'll end up in the friend-zone.
I'm willing to go out with her 1-2 more times after her little speech, but after that, if she refuses, I'm wondering how to broach the subject and make it clear that I want things to either move forward or break off, without making it too obvious an ultimatum or making her feel uneasy in case she does actually have some issues that I'm not aware of. Kind of a sensitive issue, I think... thoughts appreciated...