"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl wants me to write out the rules an regulations

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been gaming this chick, fked her brains out. shes all about me blablabla you guys know how it goes. anyway

ive had to lay down the law on her on a few different issues, let her know where I stand.

she actually told me she can follow better when its written and asked if I could write out my rules an regulations for her, whats acceptable whats not and that should would sign it and agree to whatever I wanted. LOL

So im going to include stuff like, what my hygeine expectations are (ie, how I want her puzzy, waxed, hair nails etc). The type of clothing I expect her to be in, etc. Basically EVERYTHING I want.

Pretty good exercise if you ask me...Ill let you know how this unfolds.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There's a few thing's I could see possibly happening here.

1. She could always reference and cite this list if you slip up on your end.

2. She could use and show this list to others and tell them how evil and controlling you are if it suits her purpose.

Not saying she'd do either of these but it's always good to take these things into consideration.
 

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This really is a strange one. I'm inclined to think she'll be looking for loopholes right and left, and trying to entrap you based on technicalities.

Personally I would tell her that this isn't necessary and that she should be able to understand your expectations.
 

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Attach a confession of judgment rider (if your state allows)--which means, if she defaults, you automatically get a monetary judgment upon filing with the court. LOL.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I smell Legalism...the creepyness may end with her giving you a similar list of requirements. I would tell her to forget about it, then let time pass, keeping my eyes open for red flags.

The only rule should be to support each other.
 

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Don't do it. There are so many things that can go wrong with it. She could use it as evidence against you down the line. Just tell her that if she can't remember what's good and bad in a relationship then perhaps she's not the woman for you. Watch her buckle up.
 
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Sounds like an epic mindfvck shyt test where she gets you to comply with a silly request that seems super Alpha on the surface.

If that's her intent, she's a Jedi and you're out of your league
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Am busy so not going to get into the whole "should i or shouldnt i do this thing"

If you're going to, here's a idea: Sit down with her, tell her the rules, get HER to write them down in front of you.

1. If she's actually into the idea and not making a powerplay then her writing them down will re-affirm them in her head
2. It's her hand writing, less chance of her using it against you in the future...

Just a thought
 

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Not sure how many of you guys have seen 50 Shades of Grey? Obviously @LiveYourDream has since she's a woman and it's damn near a natural law that every woman has seen/read it.

Anyways, it sounds exactly like that movie. She's probably running with that fantasy, which is kinda fvcked up in itself since it's a fantasy. If you're crazy enough to do this then demand she address you as "sir", the guy in the movie does that, she'll love it. I'm convinced she got this from that movie.

I personally would never seriously do this. I joked about it a few times after watching it with my girlfriend, but I would never do it.
 

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I suspect she's running a '50 Shades of Grey' type fantasy. She's asking/yearning to be dominated by you. Maybe not hardcore, but then again, maybe. She sees you as a man who truly has the capacity to dominate her. Such men are not common. She's trying to spell it out to you. She needs it to be your idea so she can perceive you as dominant. She wants you to 'take her,' and make her yours, so to speak.
This was my first thought. Don't go crazy, come up with some easy rules to follow. Put something in there that "this contract can ended at any time by either party which will immediately terminate this relationship."

THEN

Just to "verify" that she's looking for a 50 shades type of deal, have her WRITE THE CONTRACT out ten times, naked, while kneeling in front of you.

Set it up as an official "contract signing" ceremony or something. If she goes for this, then you've got yourself a willing sex slave.
 

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Someone tell me how exactly this is a **** test. And how it can be used against him in the future. It's weird she'd ask for this, but I'm not sure how she fan use it against him.
 

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Thanks for all the replies everyone had great points to make...and it just goes to show everything in life is in shades of grey...ill update you guys monday
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tell her to keep that toilet seat up where it belongs.
Yeah, so when you are fvcking her doggy style in the bathroom you can shove her face in there more easily...hahaha
 

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Did this once as a last ditch effort with a LTR that was on the brink. It was my idea, actually. I wrote out my rules, we discussed, and she signed. Then in return she wrote hers, we discussed, and I signed. It helped a little but in hinesight it was too much work and hassle. Would I do this again? No... I'd just dump her earlier instead of trying a last ditch effort to fix what can't be fixed. If it was such a good idea on my part then in theory we'd still be together, wouldn't we?
 
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