"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl using neg-hit against me

CherryBreaker

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This chick I was talking to was neg hitting me all night after I've neg hitted her in a jokingly way for the past month.

Guys, how do you counteract this stuff. Is she mirroring my actions because she wants to get even or because she sees it as a playful ritual between us.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Xandaman, I can tell you are a very talented poster, keep up the good work, you make the 12 year olds proud....

That's a neghit dude.
 

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In my past experiences w/ college girls, when they neg hit me, its a sign of interest. Although if you noticed her personality is generally suited for that sh#t, take it as her just messing with you.
 

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no girl without some kinda intrest would neg hit you, just as you wouldn't neg hit her.

dunno what to say about neg hits though its been done to me.. and i haven't found a really good way to counteract except dish out another neg hit on her lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hey guys insults arent neg hits ok
 

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Originally posted by CherryBreaker
This chick I was talking to was neg hitting me all night after I've neg hitted her in a jokingly way for the past month.

Guys, how do you counteract this stuff. Is she mirroring my actions because she wants to get even or because she sees it as a playful ritual between us.
How does she neg hit you?
 

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cry and tell her your sensitive.


but on a more serious note, neg hit's are countered by indifference. she is trying to invoke a response from you, cancel her plan. she neg hits you because when you neg hit her she is affected. visa vie act consistantly indifferent.
 

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Accuse her of flirtin with you and then tell her she'll have to do more than just teasing to get you into bed with her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by CherryBreaker
This chick I was talking to was neg hitting me all night after I've neg hitted her in a jokingly way for the past month.

Guys, how do you counteract this stuff. Is she mirroring my actions because she wants to get even or because she sees it as a playful ritual between us.
Well, about a year ago I was mixing drinks behind the bar at a party. I was pretty drunk and literally hit on every girl that asked for a drink. One girl (HB6) did a neg hit on my new hairstyle. I told her that I got compliments on my hairstyle from most of the hot chicks, thereby questioning her taste (and neg hitting her back...).

In the course of the night she ordered 2 more drinks and each time I would start a conversation with her and ask for her name (pretending that we had not met before). She got really upset because she introduced herself 3 times to me and I pretended not to know her. Well she totally bought it because it was a very busy party and I was very drunk. I have seen her a couple of times since then and she treats me real nice (although I do not fu**ing care about her at all).
 

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Originally posted by christz
lol so where's the line drawn?
A neg-hit is usually a backhanded compliment... Let's say you are talking to a girl in a club and she tells you that she is a doctor/lawyer/vet etc. if you said something like "WOW! You're a lot smarter than you look!"... that's a neghit. If you said "I didn't think you were smart enough to be a doctor" thats an insult.

A good neghit should either sound like a compliment or have something funny about it. The real meaning of the neghit doesn't come out until they have had a chance to think about it.

Cheers
 
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