"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girl turns up with another dude....

Dan08

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So recent posts of mine have mentioned a girl, was considering asking her for a drink and we've previously shagged and I wanted to take it to the next level.
I thought she was thinking the same, there was interest there or so I thought.

Had a house party last night and hit the clubs and she turns up to the party with another dude in tow and I'm like Fuuuuuuuu- inside but I play it cool, super cool. If I can take anything out of this it's that I didn't let on for a second it got to me or let it ruin my night.

Anyways we're out at the clubs and she's having some banter with me, we're dancing holding hands, having a good time and then she's off kissing the dude she brought with her and by that point I don't give a ****.
I'm having too many drinks and too much fun with mates to care and it's beautiful.

End of the night she gets a cab home with home so we know what happened, dude had my sloppy seconds :)

And now on a fresh Sunday morning when I'm looking back my ego hurts that I read this wrong, I'm sad because I liked this girl, I feel better that I know where I stand with her now and I feel proud that this has affected me less than what I would have thought.

So as of now I'm going to take this bruised ego and think f*ck this I deserve better and I'm hitting the gym, I'm buying some shoes and I'm f_cking getting back out there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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foreverAFC

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i would show complete disgust at this type of ridiculous behavior, why would you continue to hang out and pretend like everything was fine when while you were being disrespected, this is what makes them think this type of behavior is perfectly fine
 

Solomon

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Dan08 said:
So as of now I'm going to take this bruised ego and think f*ck this I deserve better and I'm hitting the gym, I'm buying some shoes and I'm f_cking getting back out there.
You're learning your lesson so KBJING needed although the borknovoy's will gladly come and dissect this but you're learning that's all that matters and inpsiring use that pain and let it fuel for success......
 

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You missed an opportunity for epic hilariousness.

If this ever happens again, pretend like you seriously thought she brought the other guy because she wanted to be gangbanged. The other dude will RUN, she'll be mortified with embarrassment, all while you die laughing. Doesn't that sound like more fun than the evening you just had?
 

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foreverAFC said:
i would show complete disgust at this type of ridiculous behavior, why would you continue to hang out and pretend like everything was fine when while you were being disrespected, this is what makes them think this type of behavior is perfectly fine
She know her behaviour is disrespectful.

Pointing it out or acting up won't make a difference.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bible_Belt said:
You missed an opportunity for epic hilariousness.

If this ever happens again, pretend like you seriously thought she brought the other guy because she wanted to be gangbanged. The other dude will RUN, she'll be mortified with embarrassment, all while you die laughing. Doesn't that sound like more fun than the evening you just had?
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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Dan08 said:
So as of now I'm going to take this bruised ego and think f*ck this I deserve better and I'm hitting the gym, I'm buying some shoes and I'm f_cking getting back out there.
LOL, a party girl doth not maketh a good girlfriend. Best not to dwell on lost opportunities with them.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
You missed an opportunity for epic hilariousness.

If this ever happens again, pretend like you seriously thought she brought the other guy because she wanted to be gangbanged. The other dude will RUN, she'll be mortified with embarrassment, all while you die laughing. Doesn't that sound like more fun than the evening you just had?
http://img138.imageshack.us/img138/987/gangbang.jpg
 

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She knows she's disrespecting you. Your princess is in another castle. Erase and replace her.

Case closed.
 

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Dan08 said:
she's having some banter with me, we're dancing holding hands, having a good time and then she's off kissing the dude she brought with her
No matter what happens in the future, remember this^^^^^^.

You now have the green light to treat this one like garbage. I have a feeling she'll come back to you either out of boredom or the realization that you were better than whoever she's seeing at the moment.... when or if she does....don't forget.

game on playa. :up:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She cares so little about you that she showed up with another dude. That's very disrespectful. I'd barely acknowledge her existence at this point. She really doesn't deserve much more.
 
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