"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl trying to make me jealous?

Comatozed

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So a girl I've been seeing/texting has twice now said things I think may have been said with the intention of making me jealous.

The first was 'some guy just messaged me on tinder saying do you want sex tmr?' - (no ****ing **** you ***** its tinder i'd be more shocked if you didn't get those messages)

Anyway, I got by that as she followed up with 'do I look like that type of girl comatozed' and I managed to go into tease mode and said 'nah you come across uptight if anything, you look like a prude', which is a neg i'd been giving her from the start and she'd respond by qualifying herself to me.

So a couple of days later, after the convo had died, she reopens with 'I got asked out by two guys and i'm gonna go, it's like that saying about buses'

Now I've not replied yet, and tbh, it has kinda butt hurt me a touch (I know it shouldn't but..) anyway..cos I know I'm butt hurt it's in my head that what ever I do will come across that way.

Option 1) NC. See if she will get into line when she see's I just don't respond to that. (Worried that comes across as sulky?)

Option 2) 'Cool, hope you have fun!' (probably the best as it is hard to infer i'm annoyed at that and then puts the ball back in her court to shape up)

Option 3) 'That's cool. My dog likes to play with random turds too, but in the end, he always comes back to me'. (****y/funny - regain frame)

Option 4) 'Cool. I just matched with a girl who looks a bit like a cross of you and (insertfamousceleb) actually, gonna see if I can charm her into a date (I hide the obvious fact I'm playing her at her own game by preteneding the fact I'm telling her that is cos she looks a bit like her not cos I'm spinning the jealousy tables on her.

I think all options are good. What would the DJ's and aspiring ones of SS do!?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Zapp Brannigan

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I'd leave her alone, and not respond. Obvious attention seeker, and she'll only get worse.
 

mangotot

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Text her back about a different subject altogether ignoring this stuff.
 

Rainman4707

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Sounds like a Bit*h. I'd respond :- "ok :) have fun"

I would'nt be very interested in her. I'd just view her as a potential lay.

Don't invest much time in her. Slide in to the converstaions that you are meeting other women. Say something like :-

"The girl I had a drink with Tuesday night shoved her tongue down my throat. I dislike it when they do that."

When she knows you have options she will think you have something going for you which will intrigue her intrigue = interest = attraction
 

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"Alright cool , hope it goes as planned , oh btw my friend X car broke down do you know a good mechanic in the area "

Or just be okay and bring up a next random topic.

Give it 2-3 weeks when she msgs you don't answer and get back at her late " Oh , sorry I was at the movies with this girl from work/school ....couldn't use my phone - manners."
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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