I hooked up with this girl on saturday after our second date. This was our actual first "real" date. After we had sex she asked me "so, what are we." I told her that I don't want a relationship now. She agreed to that. On Sunday she says that we should be official again. Yesterday she showed up at my place unexpected to cook me dinner. After dinner she brought it up again. She texted me that we should go out on Wednesday. She also said she wants to be official. I keep telling her no but she doesn't want to listen. I'm thinking of telling her that she is turning me off with this relationship talk. I like her but she is moving way too fast for me. What would be the best way to do this?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girl trying to hook me in a relationship
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Sometimes there's no way to solve an issue like this. If she really wants to be official, you won't get her off that track for long. Maybe you'll never see eye to eye. Call her and talk it over.
^^This.Brosy said:
It's quite amazing how much smoother things go if you just agree then do what you will regardless.
It's the way to go...until you get bored.
Wow though that girl is fast. Most don't bring that up until you've been fvcking every weekend
three months straight.
Watch out for "needy" behavior and treat it accordingly.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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But is sex really worth the drama that will surely ensue?pdx1138 said:
^^ If it gets to the point of annoying drama, then a quick dump will be in order.
In the meantime free poon.
I could have had another 3 months of poon in my last relationship if I'd not opened my big mouth
and responded honestly to a question like that....learned from it!
In the meantime free poon.
I could have had another 3 months of poon in my last relationship if I'd not opened my big mouth
and responded honestly to a question like that....learned from it!