I hooked up with this girl on saturday after our second date. This was our actual first "real" date. After we had sex she asked me "so, what are we." I told her that I don't want a relationship now. She agreed to that. On Sunday she says that we should be official again. Yesterday she showed up at my place unexpected to cook me dinner. After dinner she brought it up again. She texted me that we should go out on Wednesday. She also said she wants to be official. I keep telling her no but she doesn't want to listen. I'm thinking of telling her that she is turning me off with this relationship talk. I like her but she is moving way too fast for me. What would be the best way to do this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl trying to hook me in a relationship
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Sometimes there's no way to solve an issue like this. If she really wants to be official, you won't get her off that track for long. Maybe you'll never see eye to eye. Call her and talk it over.
^^This.Brosy said:
It's quite amazing how much smoother things go if you just agree then do what you will regardless.
It's the way to go...until you get bored.
Wow though that girl is fast. Most don't bring that up until you've been fvcking every weekend
three months straight.
Watch out for "needy" behavior and treat it accordingly.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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But is sex really worth the drama that will surely ensue?pdx1138 said:
^^ If it gets to the point of annoying drama, then a quick dump will be in order.
In the meantime free poon.
I could have had another 3 months of poon in my last relationship if I'd not opened my big mouth
and responded honestly to a question like that....learned from it!
In the meantime free poon.
I could have had another 3 months of poon in my last relationship if I'd not opened my big mouth
and responded honestly to a question like that....learned from it!