"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl Trouble

lugsy211

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Concerning all DJs!
I am posting about a problem im having specifically with this girl I recently started to get to know from School. Shes been in one of my classes for a year now and I only started talkin to her recently. Not because i've only just plucked up the courage but because I realised I want to go out with her.

-When I talk to her on IM it has always been me that initiates conversation but I always manage to have something interesting to talk about. Should I stop initiating conversations?

- her friends see her as the random one and usually I can make some jokes using 'random' material.

-She doesnt exactly respond to any ****y remarks but does the solely funny ones.

-I don't know what to say to her in class as she doesnt give me eye contact and I dont know how to initiate a casual conversation with her. She always walks right past the front of my desk to her gf in that row. Note that its jus her and her girlfriend that sit beside eachother! I've though about joining them but it would just seem so weird with all my friends in the row behind and a spare seat.
Its not that i dont have the courage/confidence to say anything i just dont have a clue what could be relevant.
Am i being a bore/uninteresting asking about certain work/homework all the time?

Windows of oppurtunity ahead:
We both go to the same Charity based/lunchtime club which visits elderly afterschool.
At this Christmas Concert I plan to play a solo on acoustic guitar.

Any help/tips/advice lads?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bill

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You seem to be giving too much attention to this particular girl.

Also, talking over IM (not to mention initiating every single conversation) is bad. High-school bad.

You need to create some kind of attraction, and that implies making yourself WAY less available. Right now, it looks as though you're labeled as a "new friend" to her.

I highly recommend you read the DJ Bible, as you seem to not be grasping some of the basic principles.
Best of luck.
Peace.

-Bill
 

DJ4Real

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Don't intiate all of the conversations. Let her do some work too.

Work on being unavailable, so that she'll value your presents more.

It's not being soley ****y or soley funny. It's being ****y funny. Take a ****y statement and add humor to it.

Read the bible more.

Good Luck:cool:
 
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