"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Girl tried to DJ me last night
- Thread starter Doc73
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Don't mean to take the wind out of your sails, I wasn't there maybe she really did want to hook up with you. But at the same time, she is a waitress and these girls live off their tips, flirting is a second nature to them.
No matter how old you are, you HAVE to be carded. At my work, we recently got in a lot of trouble for not carding a 38 year old. **** happens, and you think someone is old enough but you have to card them no matter what. If someone was to get in an accident after they left the bar, you're looking at losing your license for serving someone without ID.
About the girl, with the girls I work with, they use sex to get those good tips. They flirt, play, have fun, talk and go out of their way to make the guy customers think they're into them. Give out a phone number (fake of course....can be fun to give our manager's number though
and the guy will almost always drop down a huge tip. That is why us guys have problems getting tips...sure, we can sweet talk and make the ladies happy....No she didn't "DJ YOU" - if you gave good tips, haha you got played just like the many dozens of guys that she plays. Oh and your friends, they're fkkn clueless too.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.