"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Girl tried to DJ me last night
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Don't mean to take the wind out of your sails, I wasn't there maybe she really did want to hook up with you. But at the same time, she is a waitress and these girls live off their tips, flirting is a second nature to them.
No matter how old you are, you HAVE to be carded. At my work, we recently got in a lot of trouble for not carding a 38 year old. **** happens, and you think someone is old enough but you have to card them no matter what. If someone was to get in an accident after they left the bar, you're looking at losing your license for serving someone without ID.
About the girl, with the girls I work with, they use sex to get those good tips. They flirt, play, have fun, talk and go out of their way to make the guy customers think they're into them. Give out a phone number (fake of course....can be fun to give our manager's number though
and the guy will almost always drop down a huge tip. That is why us guys have problems getting tips...sure, we can sweet talk and make the ladies happy....No she didn't "DJ YOU" - if you gave good tips, haha you got played just like the many dozens of guys that she plays. Oh and your friends, they're fkkn clueless too.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.