Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wow, maybe you should try following your own advice.ElStud said:Just say anything, it doesn't matter WHAT you say. Besides, being good at conversation does NOT gaurantee that she's attracted. If you're just good at conversation, she might be interested in you as a friend, but not really attracted to you. Besides, you're going in for rapport too early. Before you go for rapport, you've got to hook her and attract her. The way you go about doing this is negging her, using C+F, teasing her, basically, you use attraction techniques. Once she's hooked and you'll know that when she's probably laughing and stuff, THEN you can start going for rapport and asking her stuff like "How was your weekend?". If you go for rapport from the start, she won't know your value and thus will show disinterest.
If the convo goes really bad rape and death may be his only choice.HandyAndy said:Avoid rape and death lol.
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