"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girl told me something...

KillingTime

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This is no biggie, not really trying to over-analyze it, it just really caught my attention.

Was talkin to this girl, she tells me this somewhat gross story about her when she was little. I jokingly make fun of her and tell her its sick.
Anyway, she tells me that it's funny because if she told any other guy they would laugh and say it was so cute, but I'm totally up front about things.

^ I don't really get the "up front" comment, im pretty sure thats what im going for though. Just a year ago I would have been one of the guys telling her how cute her story was, now i don't suck up to anyone.
Still, i didn't really get what she meant by that... but she was laughing and stuff so I hope it's a sign that i've changed for the best (afc ---> dj)

Like i said, it's no biggie and I no longer analyze things that girls tell me.... this one just stood out because if it means what i think it means, then other people are probably starting to see the new me and that makes me pretty damn happy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Kelson

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I understand exactly how you feel; I was laying in bed with a chick when she made a comment along the same lines a number of months ago.

It is, essentially, a compliment...and, even better, it IS a compliment in her mind too [occassionally, you might hear a comment that means you're improving, but doesn't really equate to a compliment in her mind if she actually thought about it...and they are generally just like this off the cuff remark].

All it really means is that she noticed you being honest with her and not supplicating. She even revealed, without noticing it, that you stand out beyond 'other guys' now. It is definately a good thing.

Kelson
 

CharmaLeo

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You get a pat on the back. But no diploma yet until she calls you an a55hole. You are on getting out of the matrix though.
 
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