"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girl to homecoming alone

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Sorry, I decided I'd rather post my thread here. The other can be deleted.

I just graduated, but my girlfriend is still in high school, and homecoming is coming up. We've been together for a little over 2 months now and she brought up how she went dress shopping with her friend today and she kinda wants to go to homecoming. So we talked about it a little bit and then it went like this....

Me: Do you plan on having a date if you go?
Her: nope nope
Me: ah okay.
Her: ha, dont gotta worry
Me: ?
Her: wouldnt you be bothered by it?
Me: what, if you had a date?
Her: ja
Me: No..I'd assume I'd be your date?
Her:ah, well. id be going soloooo. but then again, i doubt im going anyway

Should I find this disrespectful? Should I respect she wants to go alone and not be bothered by it? We've talked about the whole grinding thing so she wouldn't even be dancing if I wasn't there.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why aren't YOU taking her to Homecoming?????
 
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WaterTiger said:
Why aren't YOU taking her to Homecoming?????
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Because it's HER homecoming, not my homecoming and she hasn't invited me (her boyfriend) to go with her. Said IF she was going, it was solo.
 
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Fingerling said:
maybe as its your girlfriend you should suggest you go with her?
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Did you read the original post?

"Her: wouldnt you be bothered by it?
Me: what, if you had a date?
Her: ja
Me: No..I'd assume I'd be your date?
Her:ah, well. id be going soloooo. but then again, i doubt im going anyway"

I threw it out there that I'd expect to be her date. I even mentioned a little earlier that I like to get dressed up when she brought it up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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my bad sorry, i miss read. yeah i would have expected her to take you up on your offer.

Do you know if some of her mates are also going solo? Could be a reason.
 
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Fingerling said:
my bad sorry, i miss read. yeah i would have expected her to take you up on your offer.

Do you know if some of her mates are also going solo? Could be a reason.
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See, I don't ACTUALLY know if anybody else is going alone..but I wouldn't think so. I could somewhat understand if they were..although, I still don't believe she'd dance so it would be somewhat pointless. I'm pretty sure her friends are going with dates. But she's never really been big on me hanging out with her and her group of friends..they don't really talk to her as much when I'm there, and I guess she feels compelled to show me attention instead of enjoying time with them?
 
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See, I don't ACTUALLY know if anybody else is going alone..but I wouldn't think so. I could somewhat understand if they were..although, I still don't believe she'd dance so it would be somewhat pointless. I'm pretty sure her friends are going with dates. But she's never really been big on me hanging out with her and her group of friends..they don't really talk to her as much when I'm there, and I guess she feels compelled to show me attention instead of enjoying time with them?
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An alternative is that her friends do not like you from first impressions or she is embarrassed to be seen with you.

Doesn't sound too positive does it?

She'd rather go solo, then go with you? That says it all really.
 
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Energizer said:
An alternative is that her friends do not like you from first impressions or she is embarrassed to be seen with you.

Doesn't sound too positive does it?

She'd rather go solo, then go with you? That says it all really.
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And a couple of her friends didn't, because she dumped someone else to go out with me. But it seems like we're cool now. And most of her knows already know me, and know we're together..not to mention I have been with all of them and her before and they just didn't really communicate with her that much..and she didn't introduce me to them so I didn't talk to them too much.
 
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You're making excuses, the fact remains that this girl would rather go alone to a homecoming then with you.

What does that tell you? Seriously, you need to think about where this is going.

Isn't this the same girl that was messing you around, the one you created the topic "Help" about? If it is, it is time to get real and ditch her, because she is toxic and she will cause you immense unhappiness and damage whatever confidence you may have.

Get out while it's a relatively new relationship.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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