"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl to homecoming alone

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Sorry, I decided I'd rather post my thread here. The other can be deleted.

I just graduated, but my girlfriend is still in high school, and homecoming is coming up. We've been together for a little over 2 months now and she brought up how she went dress shopping with her friend today and she kinda wants to go to homecoming. So we talked about it a little bit and then it went like this....

Me: Do you plan on having a date if you go?
Her: nope nope
Me: ah okay.
Her: ha, dont gotta worry
Me: ?
Her: wouldnt you be bothered by it?
Me: what, if you had a date?
Her: ja
Me: No..I'd assume I'd be your date?
Her:ah, well. id be going soloooo. but then again, i doubt im going anyway

Should I find this disrespectful? Should I respect she wants to go alone and not be bothered by it? We've talked about the whole grinding thing so she wouldn't even be dancing if I wasn't there.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why aren't YOU taking her to Homecoming?????
 
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WaterTiger said:
Why aren't YOU taking her to Homecoming?????
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Because it's HER homecoming, not my homecoming and she hasn't invited me (her boyfriend) to go with her. Said IF she was going, it was solo.
 
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Fingerling said:
maybe as its your girlfriend you should suggest you go with her?
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Did you read the original post?

"Her: wouldnt you be bothered by it?
Me: what, if you had a date?
Her: ja
Me: No..I'd assume I'd be your date?
Her:ah, well. id be going soloooo. but then again, i doubt im going anyway"

I threw it out there that I'd expect to be her date. I even mentioned a little earlier that I like to get dressed up when she brought it up.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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my bad sorry, i miss read. yeah i would have expected her to take you up on your offer.

Do you know if some of her mates are also going solo? Could be a reason.
 
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Fingerling said:
my bad sorry, i miss read. yeah i would have expected her to take you up on your offer.

Do you know if some of her mates are also going solo? Could be a reason.
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See, I don't ACTUALLY know if anybody else is going alone..but I wouldn't think so. I could somewhat understand if they were..although, I still don't believe she'd dance so it would be somewhat pointless. I'm pretty sure her friends are going with dates. But she's never really been big on me hanging out with her and her group of friends..they don't really talk to her as much when I'm there, and I guess she feels compelled to show me attention instead of enjoying time with them?
 
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See, I don't ACTUALLY know if anybody else is going alone..but I wouldn't think so. I could somewhat understand if they were..although, I still don't believe she'd dance so it would be somewhat pointless. I'm pretty sure her friends are going with dates. But she's never really been big on me hanging out with her and her group of friends..they don't really talk to her as much when I'm there, and I guess she feels compelled to show me attention instead of enjoying time with them?
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An alternative is that her friends do not like you from first impressions or she is embarrassed to be seen with you.

Doesn't sound too positive does it?

She'd rather go solo, then go with you? That says it all really.
 
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Energizer said:
An alternative is that her friends do not like you from first impressions or she is embarrassed to be seen with you.

Doesn't sound too positive does it?

She'd rather go solo, then go with you? That says it all really.
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And a couple of her friends didn't, because she dumped someone else to go out with me. But it seems like we're cool now. And most of her knows already know me, and know we're together..not to mention I have been with all of them and her before and they just didn't really communicate with her that much..and she didn't introduce me to them so I didn't talk to them too much.
 
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You're making excuses, the fact remains that this girl would rather go alone to a homecoming then with you.

What does that tell you? Seriously, you need to think about where this is going.

Isn't this the same girl that was messing you around, the one you created the topic "Help" about? If it is, it is time to get real and ditch her, because she is toxic and she will cause you immense unhappiness and damage whatever confidence you may have.

Get out while it's a relatively new relationship.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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