"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girl that works near me

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There is this girl that works upstairs at another company from mine. She often cuts through mine to get to her work and has smiled at me on many occasions, Ive usually been to busy with customers as I'm in sales. I've said hi to her a few times as she was leaving but nothing much, because Ive been to busy. Any ideas on how to approach this girl, because I do need to purchase something from the company she works for soon. She is in somewhat easy access to talk to assuming she is working when I am. But I want to build attraction, thats my main thing, I can talk to girls but I get friend zoned fast. need help.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting friend zoned is... well I've never heard a girl say "I like you as a friend only." Girls are either interested in me romantically or not at all. And I think it's like that with all guys. All male/female relationships are sexual at the core. And I'm not great looking. I used to THINK I was in the friend zone, but then I took the risk of escalating. Held her hand, kissed her, etc.

My point is... If she's smiling at you, she's probably attracted to you already. You should talk to her like a normal person. You don't need to build attraction; you need to not LOSE the attraction that she already has for you. The way you lose attraction is by going into the situation thinking about how you can make her attracted to you. She either IS or she ISN'T. And you have no way to make her more attracted to you... Just like it would be hard for her to make you more attracted to her. You might be interested, but you would hardly care if she had a super interesting life or whatever. However, if she was to talk to you and stutter and be super shy and act with zero self-confidence, then you'd think something is wrong with her... You'd think that she wasn't good enough for you after all.

So... just be confident. You're good enough for her. That means that you should just talk to her, and invite her to hang out. You can say anything to her. You can say you think she's cute and you think you might want her in your life. You just have to say it confidently.

The only way to find out whether she's attracted to you is to assume that she is, and just do what you'd do if she was attracted to you. That's called confidence.
 
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Right on, appreciate the advice, any other posters have trouble with my situation?
 
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