Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl that used to date jerks

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Have u guys ever dated one of these girls? The one that says that all their ex boyfriends were a$$holes and that your so different from them.

My girlfriend is 23 and shes has slept with 6 guys - all ex bf's she says. And she has told me on a number of occasions that they were all jerks, sometimes with examples, which definately prove it.

Ive asked her jokingly a few times why she liked jerks and how come she likes nice guys now. and she says she's done with that, and the whole going out and getting drunk all the time thing, and that she loves that im sweet and i treat her good. So i said kiddingly to her, sureeeee, youll get tired of the niceness and eventually go back to an a$$hole. And she laughs and deinies it.

I wanna beleive it but i've heard this all before from another girl i dated, and after about a year she lost all interest in me, dumped me and went back to her old ways of excessive partying and a$$hole liking, after she told me a zillion times she was done with that and she crazy bout me.

Do i have anything to worry about with this girl? I mean i understand a few of the realtionships were high school ones so those dont matter she was young then. And even early college years as well. But as for her last 2 relationships, she dated those guys for pretty long periods and the stories she has told about them make them seem like total sh*theads, i cant even fathom her going out with them. She's so unlike that now. so weird.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mmm....I don't know exactly. I guess if you're really concerned about it, you could purposely stand her, and follow with innocence, do it again, follow with a bad date, and come back with niceness?

Sounds too complex to me, I'd rather just date her and enjoy, rather then worry my head off about an 'it could happen...'.
 

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Maybe you're a jerk and you just dont know it? Its a possibility right? Maybe it was after she dated those guys where she actually looked back and realized what a-holes they really were...
 

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Jerk, niceguy, all that crap means nothing.

Just stay independent, don't let your life revolve around her, and just be light hearted and fun when you two are together. Do your own things, keep hanging out with your friends. You don't have to an azzhole, you just have to stay confident and independent, not clingy and dependent.

And if she says she slept with 6 guys, I'd bank on about 10-12. Don't ever ask a girl this question again. You don't need to know. You can tell if she's a slvt or not from her actions.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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hard one to judge. Some girls have a tendency to call ALL exes where things ended badly jerks. How jerkish were the exes? Everyone has their bad moments in a relationship.
 

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You can create the attraction that a "jerk" creates in a girl, without actually acting like an a$$hole at the same time.
 

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speed dawg said:
Jerk, niceguy, all that crap means nothing.

Just stay independent, don't let your life revolve around her, and just be light hearted and fun when you two are together. Do your own things, keep hanging out with your friends. You don't have to an azzhole, you just have to stay confident and independent, not clingy and dependent.

And if she says she slept with 6 guys, I'd bank on about 10-12. Don't ever ask a girl this question again. You don't need to know. You can tell if she's a slvt or not from her actions.
she asked me i didnt ask her. SO i told her how many, and then asked her cuz thats only fair since she broght it up.
 

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speed dawg said:
Jerk, niceguy, all that crap means nothing.

Just stay independent, don't let your life revolve around her, and just be light hearted and fun when you two are together. Do your own things, keep hanging out with your friends. You don't have to an azzhole, you just have to stay confident and independent, not clingy and dependent.

And if she says she slept with 6 guys, I'd bank on about 10-12. Don't ever ask a girl this question again. You don't need to know. You can tell if she's a slvt or not from her actions.
10-12 holy sh*t! She def doesnt seem like a slut, but that is a huge amount for a 23 yr old in my opinion. 6 is ok with me, but 10-12 is insane, i hope not. Plus that would also mean she had one night things, cuz she said she only had 6 bf's.
She is very horny and wants to do it all the time, and she gets off really fast, faster than i do sometimes lol. I always hear guys complain that girls dont wanna have sex as often as they do, did i get lucky or is she a slut?
 

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Women like Men who are a challenge.

Jerk = Challenge.

Nice guy = No Challenge.

Nice Guy with a backbone and game = Challenge.

Nice guy with game that ends up dumping her =Jerk.

See how it works??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJinTraining06 said:
10-12 holy sh*t! She def doesnt seem like a slut, but that is a huge amount for a 23 yr old in my opinion. 6 is ok with me, but 10-12 is insane, i hope not. Plus that would also mean she had one night things, cuz she said she only had 6 bf's.
She is very horny and wants to do it all the time, and she gets off really fast, faster than i do sometimes lol. I always hear guys complain that girls dont wanna have sex as often as they do, did i get lucky or is she a slut?
Who knows, but girls I know usually take off a few when confronted with this question. She may be telling the truth.

People have to be a little wild in this day and age to get it out of their system. Girls will ALWAYS have someone to fukk. She may be a little more liberated, not necessarily a slvt.

A good question is, how long did it take YOU to fukk her? That's probably what she did with the rest of them. All girls are always going to have a steady supply of d1ck available to them. Whether it be ONE guy, or ten.
 

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speed dawg said:
Who knows, but girls I know usually take off a few when confronted with this question. She may be telling the truth.

People have to be a little wild in this day and age to get it out of their system. Girls will ALWAYS have someone to fukk. She may be a little more liberated, not necessarily a slvt.

A good question is, how long did it take YOU to fukk her? That's probably what she did with the rest of them. All girls are always going to have a steady supply of d1ck available to them. Whether it be ONE guy, or ten.

3rd date. not bad right?
 

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3rd date. not bad right?
I wouldn't think so. Par for the course.

BUT.....

make no mistake, she still likes to party. Can't change people. You just gotta cool, calm and confident. NOT clingy. Just have fun, quit worrying so much. Hang out with her and if she turns out to be a slvt, so what, at least you got some puzzy.
 

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speed dawg said:
I wouldn't think so. Par for the course.

BUT.....

make no mistake, she still likes to party. Can't change people. You just gotta cool, calm and confident. NOT clingy. Just have fun, quit worrying so much. Hang out with her and if she turns out to be a slvt, so what, at least you got some puzzy.
Very true im getting laid plenty which is excellent, not really worryin bout it, i just like to tread cautiously cuz i don't wanna get hurt. A girl who sleeps around that easily makes u wonder, not that 6 guys is alot for her age (though its def not a lil either), but like the other guy said, maybe its 10-12 and shes rouding down lol. Her "I love u" would be totally discredited to me if i knew she slepot with 12 guys at her age. But thats just me and my beliefs, im sure plenty of guys differ.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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^^This TROLL above me is just promoting that webcam site. He needs to be banned. He offers no real advice at all.
 
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