well theres this girl that obviously thaught that i looked good and she wanted to go with me....but me knowing not to go with this chick off the bat...played a few games with her mind...(flirting with her, then flirting with her friend the next second)...u kno what a dj would do...neway eventually this got old to her...and she snaped and went from loving me to hating me....now me acting lik a fukin chump..... i want her back....if i put effort into it i could get her...but im not a fukin chump so whats the dj way to have her crawling bak to me lik the lil ho should...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
girl that loves u, turns to girl that hates u
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Let's see if I ca help here:
First, are you sure she really hates you? I mean, girls sometimes go on big mood swings, and this can be one of them. Therefore, one of your options is to let things cool down (no more than a couple of days) and then try talking to her. Unfortunately, you may have to "spill the beans" if her "anger" is for real so she knows why you were doing what you did. If you "spill the beans", you also have to ask her out then as well or else it all seems to be really weird and awkward (I learned this the hard way).
You could also just talk to her without telling her you like her, which may be a better idea. Just tone down the flirting a little bit for at least the time being (to other people while in front of her) so she doesn't get the impression that you are an arrogant jerk (which you aren't).
Other members may give you better advice, but I hope this helps.
First, are you sure she really hates you? I mean, girls sometimes go on big mood swings, and this can be one of them. Therefore, one of your options is to let things cool down (no more than a couple of days) and then try talking to her. Unfortunately, you may have to "spill the beans" if her "anger" is for real so she knows why you were doing what you did. If you "spill the beans", you also have to ask her out then as well or else it all seems to be really weird and awkward (I learned this the hard way).
You could also just talk to her without telling her you like her, which may be a better idea. Just tone down the flirting a little bit for at least the time being (to other people while in front of her) so she doesn't get the impression that you are an arrogant jerk (which you aren't).
Other members may give you better advice, but I hope this helps.
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She's trying to play you. The best way to get her back is to give her the silent treatment while you mac on her friends. Completely ignore her and try to move on. But if you still want her, you need to NOT want her. Doesn't make sense but just do as I say and you'll have your way.
She's trying to play you. The best way to get her back is to give her the silent treatment while you mac on her friends. Completely ignore her and try to move on. But if you still want her, you need to NOT want her. Doesn't make sense but just do as I say and you'll have your way.
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YOU know what ur talking aboutOriginally posted by The Comeback Kid
Let's see if I ca help here:
First, are you sure she really hates you? I mean, girls sometimes go on big mood swings, and this can be one of them. Therefore, one of your options is to let things cool down (no more than a couple of days) and then try talking to her. Unfortunately, you may have to "spill the beans" if her "anger" is for real so she knows why you were doing what you did. If you "spill the beans", you also have to ask her out then as well or else it all seems to be really weird and awkward (I learned this the hard way).
You could also just talk to her without telling her you like her, which may be a better idea. Just tone down the flirting a little bit for at least the time being (to other people while in front of her) so she doesn't get the impression that you are an arrogant jerk (which you aren't).
Other members may give you better advice, but I hope this helps.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
if she said she liked u, then that feeling isnt gonna go away just like that. shes still gotta hav sumthing going for ya. just knok it down a notch with tha flirting and be a bit more serious wen ya talk to her, giv her sum nice guy stuf.
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