Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl that is quite the complex

white cloud 8

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There is this Asian girl that I know, and, we talk every so often (hang out occasionally). Anyway, yesterday when we met up and had a conversation, she talks about other people (gossip) so I don't know if thats something to watch out for, the interesting thing arose when I got onto the topic of attraction; I said that attraction is a natural thing, you can't force someone to like you because it is not going to happen (she agrees), if it happens, it happens. Then after a brief moment of silence she says "Well, I like you...", I just look at her and say that I like me too (she laughs). Little subtle hints, I find its sort of hard to read her because her personality is quite complex :confused:. I guess I'll just see what develops with her.

BTW: Kino works like a charm with her e.g. I tell her that I bet I can make her laugh in 5 sec. (she keeps a straight face) then I say "Well, I guess I'm going to have to go to plan B", and I surprise tickle her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by white cloud 8
There is this Asian girl that I know, and, we talk every so often (hang out occasionally). Anyway, yesterday when we met up and had a conversation, she talks about other people (gossip) so I don't know if thats something to watch out for, the interesting thing arose when I got onto the topic of attraction; I said that attraction is a natural thing, you can't force someone to like you because it is not going to happen (she agrees), if it happens, it happens. Then after a brief moment of silence she says "Well, I like you...", I just look at her and say that I like me too (she laughs). Little subtle hints, I find its sort of hard to read her because her personality is quite complex :confused:. I guess I'll just see what develops with her.

BTW: Kino works like a charm with her e.g. I tell her that I bet I can make her laugh in 5 sec. (she keeps a straight face) then I say "Well, I guess I'm going to have to go to plan B", and I surprise tickle her.
Sounds like she's hiding her feelings away from you. Dont waste too much time ... ask her out !
 

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I get the feeling sometimes too that she can be shallow at times e.g. she doesn't like ugly people :crackup: or she could be joking because the majority of the time we joke around. Like most girls, I guess she doesn't know what she wants.
 

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Originally posted by white cloud 8
Then after a brief moment of silence she says "Well, I like you...", I just look at her and say that I like me too (she laughs).
Uh... so, what's not clear about "I like you"?

In any case (if she's playing, whatever), don't worry about "reading her", just proceed with your game assuming she likes you.
 

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All women are complex. You'll get this woman though.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by white cloud 8
I get the feeling sometimes too that she can be shallow at times e.g. she doesn't like ugly people :crackup: or she could be joking because the majority of the time we joke around. Like most girls, I guess she doesn't know what she wants.
Why are you concerned with what she wants? Do what you want. Lead and have her follow. Pace it as you like.

Yes, call her out on that gossip sh!t. Anyone who`s interested in the lives and affairs of others is lacking their own.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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I continue with making fun of her (act the same way around her), just a little while ago she text messages me saying:

I think u should keep ur comments to urself sometimes. They're unappreciated.

I texted her back saying to give me a call sometime today, what should I do? I feel as if I should apologize for being rude and disrespectful to her. On the other hand, I feel she is trying to make me feel bad so that I'll succumb to her like everyone else (manipulation). Of course, I could just be over-analyzing this too much.

:confused:
 

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What should i say to her? I was think of just apologizing for my disrespect and seeing if she had plans this week, set something casual up. Does that just sound like kissing her ass or the right thing to do?
 

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So basically don't bring it up b/c it shows that i'm not in control of my emotions, just act like it didn't even phase me and ask her if she wants to do something this week. Correct?
 

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suggestions, please?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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help, please? :yawn: :trouble:
 
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