"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girl that I'm not gaming at work

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Need Advice,

There's this girl who I work with together, where I need her help and she needs my help. She's cute but I got a Girlfriend already and I don't like her in that way. The thing is, she keeps asking me to buy her coffee for the favors that she's "suppose" to do, I guess...I've never gave in b4 and never bought her anything. This has been going on for 2 months now...But should i buy her ice coffee now, after so much persistants from her?

The reason I don't buy her coffee in the first place is that I don't buy girls drinks. period. But this is a business industry work environment and would this make me less of a DJ if i do give in once? would this set me up for her to ask for more?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you're not obligated to do this as part of your job decline her request.

No sense in blowing money on a girl you're not interested in.

Even if its just to shut her up.
 
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I was never obligated but like i said, its like office work setting. If i do buy her something, would this make me more of a sucker? she wants me to buy it and bring it to her desk.

I'm thinking about it, and if i do, do it. What would i say to make it a differnet scenario than me doing an AFC move?

any ****y or funny line is there to even use? or is it hopelessly an AFC move nomatter wat?
 
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Buy the coffee, walk to her desk, drink it in front of her. Be sure to get a milk-foam mustache
 
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Giving in just sets you up for her to ask for more but if you feel you must give in at least ask her what she'll do in return.

If she offers nothing she gets nothing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm planning on buying her the ice coffee for her monday. Any c&f lines you guys think i can say?

Theres no point in asking her what I'll get outta it because she feels like she deserves it for all the work she done for me already. Not for wat she "is" gonna offer me.
 
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