"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl texting after long time means nothing.

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Not my example but 2 friends of mine had this happened to them .

They knew some girls and they didn't speak with them for like 1-2 years and the girls were living in a different city when the girls finally initiated again out of blue .

Meanwhile these guys are very experienced in the dating aspect and the girls were hot enough , they tried to date them and do something with them .

Eventually the girls stopped talking with them because they didn't had this in mind but they only wanted to be friends. WTF .

How can you start texting and spend time with somebody out of the blue if you don't want something with them ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The girls were going through a phase of no orbiters and were looking for validation. Your two friends took the bait, and built up the girls self esteem until they found other suckers. Don't be that guy.

I had one do the same last week after about 2 years of silence. I just ignored most of the stuff she texted, replied to some of it, and generally made fun of her lightly

Her: Do you still like your job? Still working there?
Me: Are you doing research to write a book about me :)

This type of stuff. She'll probably disappear again, or ask to meet sometime. I frankly don't care.
 

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The girls were going through a phase of no orbiters and were looking for validation. Your two friends took the bait, and built up the girls self esteem until they found other suckers. Don't be that guy.

I had one do the same last week after about 2 years of silence. I just ignored most of the stuff she texted, replied to some of it, and generally made fun of her lightly

Her: Do you still like your job? Still working there?
Me: Are you doing research to write a book about me :)

This type of stuff. She'll probably disappear again, or ask to meet sometime. I frankly don't care.
This is exactly right.

Should be treated and viewed no differently to a woman you just met; especially if nothing really happened on previous encounters. The times that it happens, I give very little back in text, two or three short responses as usual, then offer the date, ideally within 24 or 48 hours, sooner the better. They say yes, they say no. Whatever.
 

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The girls were going through a phase of no orbiters and were looking for validation. Your two friends took the bait, and built up the girls self esteem until they found other suckers. Don't be that guy.

I had one do the same last week after about 2 years of silence. I just ignored most of the stuff she texted, replied to some of it, and generally made fun of her lightly

Her: Do you still like your job? Still working there?
Me: Are you doing research to write a book about me :)

This type of stuff. She'll probably disappear again, or ask to meet sometime. I frankly don't care.
I have seen many stories in here where guys that used to like a certain woman and were too afc to get her , after some years of NC the woman initiated contact again and they ended up being together.

Your example is funny but still it seems too passive aggresive . I said in my first post that it means nothing but how can you know she doesn't want to get fcked by you ? You can't ,that's why you take the chance .

I just find it really stupid though when they do that and it's not logical.
 

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Duh...women are emotional, be surprised when anything means something.o_O
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Oh it means something to her. But it should mean nothing to you.
 

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That's just fishing for validation and looking to be entertained. Typical girl behavior. Always go with actions over words.
 

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Attention withdrawal, ran out of orbiters. Women get hurt when you don't stay and just be her orbiter.

When a woman tries to make me her orbiter, I make it known that I have enough friends and I'm only an orbiter after sex. If all you want is another gay friend, piss off.
 
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