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Girl sticking finger in nostrils? ;s

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I bet ya fellas don't get this question pretty often.

So here it goes -- girl I'm interested in initiates a lot of kino. Great so far. Then while being playful she sticks her finger up my nostril and laughs. :confused:

Of course this isn't a bad sign, but it's a weird gesture if you ask me. Anyone know what this means? Can this weird gesture tell me anything?
 

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smooth guy said:
I bet ya fellas don't get this question pretty often.

So here it goes -- girl I'm interested in initiates a lot of kino. Great so far. Then while being playful she sticks her finger up my nostril and laughs. :confused:

Of course this isn't a bad sign, but it's a weird gesture if you ask me. Anyone know what this means? Can this weird gesture tell me anything?
I do it.

If I think a girl likes me a bit when I'm talking to her and we're at a party where it's pretty comfortable AND I think she's suspicious of my intentions I'll start telling her she *might* make a good buddy (I like to casually LJBF ASAP in most cases where she's suspicious, it's like kryptonite!) and then mess with her by looking closely at her upper lip, moving my finger in the edge of her nostril and start laughing.

It seems to work in disarming her cause she'll go "ewww" or whatever and get playful like she was in jr high. A "scene" has never happened because of it, but then again, I don't go all the way in.

It could be the shock of "no one's ever done that since i was a kid" or whatever but it does change the whole frame somehow and they get comfortable (chicks are weird, whatever works!). Also, it's my personal version of the "kiss test" where it would be a bad idea to try that. If she's repulsed by my hand getting near and/or touching her face, I'm already toast. If not, it's all good!

I wouldn't try that at a club, just when a girl is safe setting like a house party where she knows people. I'm sure I'd come off as a total creep as a guy if I did it there.

Maybe something you did set off the playful young girl in her?
 

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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
I do it.

If I think a girl likes me a bit when I'm talking to her and we're at a party where it's pretty comfortable AND I think she's suspicious of my intentions I'll start telling her she *might* make a good buddy (I like to casually LJBF ASAP in most cases where she's suspicious, it's like kryptonite!) and then mess with her by looking closely at her upper lip, moving my finger in the edge of her nostril and start laughing.

It seems to work in disarming her cause she'll go "ewww" or whatever and get playful like she was in jr high. A "scene" has never happened because of it, but then again, I don't go all the way in.

It could be the shock of "no one's ever done that since i was a kid" or whatever but it does change the whole frame somehow and they get comfortable (chicks are weird, whatever works!). Also, it's my personal version of the "kiss test" where it would be a bad idea to try that. If she's repulsed by my hand getting near and/or touching her face, I'm already toast. If not, it's all good!

I wouldn't try that at a club, just when a girl is safe setting like a house party where she knows people. I'm sure I'd come off as a total creep as a guy if I did it there.

Maybe something you did set off the playful young girl in her?
Nice post man. You really narrowed the whole thing down. :p
 

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smooth guy said:
So here it goes -- girl I'm interested in initiates a lot of kino. Great so far. Then while being playful she sticks her finger up my nostril and laughs. :confused:
Well there are two ways to look at it:

1) she view you as a brother.

2) Maybe its a sign that since she is not disgusted at penetrating your nostril with her finger, she won't be against you sticking your finger into another area in her body where she has a mucous membrane. You know what imasaying?!
 

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Ewww, why would she do that. Personally I think it is gross, but then I have elements of OCD.
 

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DJDamage said:
Well there are two ways to look at it:

1) she view you as a brother.

2) Maybe its a sign that since she is not disgusted at penetrating your nostril with her finger, she won't be against you sticking your finger into another area in her body where she has a mucous membrane. You know what imasaying?!
She can't view me as a brother.. I've only seen her, like what, 3 times?
 

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Cinamon said:
Ewww, why would she do that. Personally I think it is gross, but then I have elements of OCD.
Yeah same here, same here. Luckily my nose was clean :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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