"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girl sticking finger in nostrils? ;s

smooth guy

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I bet ya fellas don't get this question pretty often.

So here it goes -- girl I'm interested in initiates a lot of kino. Great so far. Then while being playful she sticks her finger up my nostril and laughs. :confused:

Of course this isn't a bad sign, but it's a weird gesture if you ask me. Anyone know what this means? Can this weird gesture tell me anything?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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smooth guy said:
I bet ya fellas don't get this question pretty often.

So here it goes -- girl I'm interested in initiates a lot of kino. Great so far. Then while being playful she sticks her finger up my nostril and laughs. :confused:

Of course this isn't a bad sign, but it's a weird gesture if you ask me. Anyone know what this means? Can this weird gesture tell me anything?
I do it.

If I think a girl likes me a bit when I'm talking to her and we're at a party where it's pretty comfortable AND I think she's suspicious of my intentions I'll start telling her she *might* make a good buddy (I like to casually LJBF ASAP in most cases where she's suspicious, it's like kryptonite!) and then mess with her by looking closely at her upper lip, moving my finger in the edge of her nostril and start laughing.

It seems to work in disarming her cause she'll go "ewww" or whatever and get playful like she was in jr high. A "scene" has never happened because of it, but then again, I don't go all the way in.

It could be the shock of "no one's ever done that since i was a kid" or whatever but it does change the whole frame somehow and they get comfortable (chicks are weird, whatever works!). Also, it's my personal version of the "kiss test" where it would be a bad idea to try that. If she's repulsed by my hand getting near and/or touching her face, I'm already toast. If not, it's all good!

I wouldn't try that at a club, just when a girl is safe setting like a house party where she knows people. I'm sure I'd come off as a total creep as a guy if I did it there.

Maybe something you did set off the playful young girl in her?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
I do it.

If I think a girl likes me a bit when I'm talking to her and we're at a party where it's pretty comfortable AND I think she's suspicious of my intentions I'll start telling her she *might* make a good buddy (I like to casually LJBF ASAP in most cases where she's suspicious, it's like kryptonite!) and then mess with her by looking closely at her upper lip, moving my finger in the edge of her nostril and start laughing.

It seems to work in disarming her cause she'll go "ewww" or whatever and get playful like she was in jr high. A "scene" has never happened because of it, but then again, I don't go all the way in.

It could be the shock of "no one's ever done that since i was a kid" or whatever but it does change the whole frame somehow and they get comfortable (chicks are weird, whatever works!). Also, it's my personal version of the "kiss test" where it would be a bad idea to try that. If she's repulsed by my hand getting near and/or touching her face, I'm already toast. If not, it's all good!

I wouldn't try that at a club, just when a girl is safe setting like a house party where she knows people. I'm sure I'd come off as a total creep as a guy if I did it there.

Maybe something you did set off the playful young girl in her?
Nice post man. You really narrowed the whole thing down. :p
 

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smooth guy said:
So here it goes -- girl I'm interested in initiates a lot of kino. Great so far. Then while being playful she sticks her finger up my nostril and laughs. :confused:
Well there are two ways to look at it:

1) she view you as a brother.

2) Maybe its a sign that since she is not disgusted at penetrating your nostril with her finger, she won't be against you sticking your finger into another area in her body where she has a mucous membrane. You know what imasaying?!
 

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Ewww, why would she do that. Personally I think it is gross, but then I have elements of OCD.
 

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DJDamage said:
Well there are two ways to look at it:

1) she view you as a brother.

2) Maybe its a sign that since she is not disgusted at penetrating your nostril with her finger, she won't be against you sticking your finger into another area in her body where she has a mucous membrane. You know what imasaying?!
She can't view me as a brother.. I've only seen her, like what, 3 times?
 

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Ewww, why would she do that. Personally I think it is gross, but then I have elements of OCD.
Yeah same here, same here. Luckily my nose was clean :D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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