"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl staying over on New Years Eve
- Thread starter Blinkers
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Now read your original post.Blinkers said:
Any questions? lol
d0g
Don Juan
Nice! Sounds like you had to do basically zero work on the day. Would you care to give us a little bit of the back-story as to how you cultivated this one? You must have done something in your social circle beforehand to make her decide she wants your d*ck to ring in her New Year (or something).Blinkers said:
Yes, I know… This is going to be a fun learning curve, especially as she’s already been back for more. I am just trying to maintain my indifference and avoid any acts that may be misconstrued as chivalry.
Trying to get the same result with *No 2 at the moment although she seems quite shy or perhaps reserved. Happy to kiss me for ages on date 2 but wasn’t as receptive to my wandering hands and she stopped us both in our tracks when she felt something against her that was trying to tear its own way out of my jeans
Its date 3 with *No 2 this weekend. We are going to my favourite comedy club, because that’s what I want to do, followed by drinks of course and hopefully more pyjamas back at mine.
Then at some point on Sunday I may spend my allocated 10-15 minutes per week of getting over my emotional trauma from my LTR break up in the “no contact” thread here; unless this shy girl turns out be a nympho and I get involved in a fvckathon, in which case I will be way too busy telling you guys in here how fvcking awesome it was; instead of wasting so much of my day grieving..
@dog
I could probably make a load of assumptions but simply put I never really paid her any attention. Not because I was gaming, because I really, really didn’t invest any effort in a girl who was not only my friend, but my ex’s friend too. I never once thought she would be prancing around my house in a thong, especially less than a month after her friend and I broke up. I must admit that while I watched her walk towards me and sit down to straddle me in my chair, I did have a “if my ex could see us now” moment. This chick is way hotter than my ex too; I even had a ‘pervy’ look at her clothes size... a UK 8/10 my ex was a UK 14 by the end of our relationship.