Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hey, im new to this and i wanna be one of those don juans. theres this girl that always smiles and waves at me when she sees me. i see potential in her but what should i do back? i always smile nicely and say hey ____. is this the correct way to handle this or what?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yes, that would be the nice way to do, you can invite here for small talk at restaurant too, it's old fashion romance but it works
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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banter definition
ban·ter (ban′tər)
transitive verb
to tease or make fun of in a playful, good-natured way
Origin: 17th-c. slang < ?
intransitive verb
to exchange banter (with someone)
noun
good-natured teasing, ridicule, or joking
 

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To win a girl you need to be someone she can talk to, but talking doesn't do any good when you reply with a lie. Don't be afraid to tell her what you really think or how you really feel about her or your relationship.

:D
 

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MrP said:
(Unless your a stud like me of course!).

I just love people like you, bragging over the internet.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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schoolfights said:
To win a girl you need to be someone she can talk to, but talking doesn't do any good when you reply with a lie. Don't be afraid to tell her what you really think or how you really feel about her or your relationship.

:D
No offense schoolfights, but this is exactly what DOESN'T work. I'm guessing you're a girl...never take advice on how to get girls from another girl! In other words...don't ask a fish how to fish.

In response to the question, you need to smile, say hi, and then flirt with her. What do I mean by flirt? Tease her playfully, if she's smiling and hitting you playfully, you're doing great. Then, you get her number, call her up sometime, and get her to hang out with you. From there, you escalate physically, until you get in there ;)

I'd recommend reading the DJ Bible, there's lot's of good stuff in there that will get you started.
 

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now this girl that i like is sorta taken.... how feasible is it for me to win her? or?
 

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yearsofwisdom said:
now this girl that i like is sorta taken.... how feasible is it for me to win her? or?
From my experience, it's probably best to continue as if she weren't taken. If you're looking for a relationship, probably not gonna happen, but if you just wanna bang her, just continue to escalate shamelessly and see what happens.
 

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interesting. Now i have a question about engaging in conversation. would it be a good idea to talk about how another girl is really hot? like a actress or a model or something ? would that be like desperate sounding or?
 

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Yeah the point is to make her see you in a sexual way. Don't say "Wow Jessica Alba is so pretty." Instead say "Jessica Alba has a great face and an amazing body, I would do unspeakable things to her if she was in my bed!" This can get her to talking about guys she'd like to sleep with, which can lead to you two talking about sex, which can get her all hot and bothered, which will work to your advantage!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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now what if there isn't attraction between the girl that i want? is that a lost cause? and if i try to act ****y but i have nothing to back that up with like a rep or something, is that useless?
 
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