"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey, im new to this and i wanna be one of those don juans. theres this girl that always smiles and waves at me when she sees me. i see potential in her but what should i do back? i always smile nicely and say hey ____. is this the correct way to handle this or what?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yes, that would be the nice way to do, you can invite here for small talk at restaurant too, it's old fashion romance but it works
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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banter definition
ban·ter (ban′tər)
transitive verb
to tease or make fun of in a playful, good-natured way
Origin: 17th-c. slang < ?
intransitive verb
to exchange banter (with someone)
noun
good-natured teasing, ridicule, or joking
 

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To win a girl you need to be someone she can talk to, but talking doesn't do any good when you reply with a lie. Don't be afraid to tell her what you really think or how you really feel about her or your relationship.

:D
 

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MrP said:
(Unless your a stud like me of course!).

I just love people like you, bragging over the internet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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schoolfights said:
To win a girl you need to be someone she can talk to, but talking doesn't do any good when you reply with a lie. Don't be afraid to tell her what you really think or how you really feel about her or your relationship.

:D
No offense schoolfights, but this is exactly what DOESN'T work. I'm guessing you're a girl...never take advice on how to get girls from another girl! In other words...don't ask a fish how to fish.

In response to the question, you need to smile, say hi, and then flirt with her. What do I mean by flirt? Tease her playfully, if she's smiling and hitting you playfully, you're doing great. Then, you get her number, call her up sometime, and get her to hang out with you. From there, you escalate physically, until you get in there ;)

I'd recommend reading the DJ Bible, there's lot's of good stuff in there that will get you started.
 

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now this girl that i like is sorta taken.... how feasible is it for me to win her? or?
 

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yearsofwisdom said:
now this girl that i like is sorta taken.... how feasible is it for me to win her? or?
From my experience, it's probably best to continue as if she weren't taken. If you're looking for a relationship, probably not gonna happen, but if you just wanna bang her, just continue to escalate shamelessly and see what happens.
 

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interesting. Now i have a question about engaging in conversation. would it be a good idea to talk about how another girl is really hot? like a actress or a model or something ? would that be like desperate sounding or?
 

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Yeah the point is to make her see you in a sexual way. Don't say "Wow Jessica Alba is so pretty." Instead say "Jessica Alba has a great face and an amazing body, I would do unspeakable things to her if she was in my bed!" This can get her to talking about guys she'd like to sleep with, which can lead to you two talking about sex, which can get her all hot and bothered, which will work to your advantage!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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now what if there isn't attraction between the girl that i want? is that a lost cause? and if i try to act ****y but i have nothing to back that up with like a rep or something, is that useless?
 
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