"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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girl seing another dude, part 2

pyros

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Met this chick a few weeks ago. She gave me her number.

Asked her out, but she said that she was 'getting to know another guy', but agreed to go on a date anyway.

We did, had fun etc, she touched me, rubbed my arm etc. At the end I went for a kiss and she rejected me. After 20 more minutes when I was saying good-bye to her I went for a kiss again and she gave me the chick and said:

her: "I told you I'm getting to know another guy"

I went no contact following the advise given here. A week later she added me on FB. Then, she liked one of my pictures in which it is me and a female friend of mine.

I plan on keeping my no contact and waiting for her to initiate. If she did, I'd ask her out again.

Opinions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pyros

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I think she wants to keep me as an option B. Uhm...

And I just got her a beer, and she wanted to pay for it, because she's more than wealthy. That beer was 3 €.

I'll continue NC.
 

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unless she's already committed, then her putting her efforts into someone else says she thinks you lack something she wants in a man. If you just want to hit it for fun while she falls back on you for attention probably only temporarily then go for it if you are up for the challenge
 

TheCWord

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This is some of your finest work, pyros. Keep it up. Adding you to FB and liking your photos is nice, but it's passive. We need her to text you, either by phone or FB, and initiate a convo. You reply with a Q of your own, she replies, then you ask for the date. If it's anything except for yes or a no with solid counter offer, she's back in the NC corner.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stay aloof. It seems to be working. You got the hamster wheel spinning. Nice work.
 
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