SeymourCake said:
If he scales himself out of 10 in each category, then he should not have a problem turning girls on.
This goes in the "just be yourself" category; just be yourself, be so very proud of who you are right now without any improvements, you are the prize, you'll meet a girl when you least expect it, etc etc. All very comfortable, gives you a kick since it means you don't have to make an effort. Some thoughts about this:
1. When a woman tells you to "just be yourself" and that all you need is confidence about what you have right now,
she is thinking of a man she is already attracted to.
2. Confidence is one factor out of many.
3. If confidence was the only thing you needed, then a lot of losers you see out on the town on Friday nights, who think they are God's gift to women when people around them just think they look and act like idiots, would score every night. Instead they don't score at all.
4. What other category would this advice work in, "all you need is confidence"? How about driving a car; you don't need to learn how to drive, you just need confidence? How about medicine? How about sales? How about succeeding in sports? How about succeeding in games? How about learning a language? How about succeeding as a speaker or as a politician? No? Yet "all you need is confidence" or "just be yourself" would work when getting women, even though it works nowhere else? If it was that easy, everyone would be doing it.
5. Guys might want to consider that they have competition -
a lot of competition. The hotter the woman, the tougher the competition. And the other guys are probably just as self-confident as you are, or more. So why would you only need confidence in order to beat them? Why wouldn't you need to match them, and outdo them, in other ways too? Does the world stop and the competition go away just because you have confidence, same as they do?
6. Women give this kind of advice: "Just be yourself, just be confident, just believe in yourself!" because it sounds good, not because it works. It is safe for them to say. They don't have to stick their necks out and take risks. Since everyone else is saying "just be yourself" etc, they can't be faulted for saying the same thing. Hiding among the crowd, as so often. When people give advice to you they think about the consequences for themselves first of all, for you second.
7. Does this work for women too, or only magically for men? Let's imagine a woman who is oozing self-confidence; she thinks no other woman is as good as she. But she is fat, she has bad breath, she has early wrinkles and yellow fingers from chain smoking, she doesn't take showers, she wears dirty clothes, she is rude and loud, she swears, she obsesses over her cats, she has been unemployed for years. But ... she has confidence. Is that enough for her to catch desirable partners? If not, why would it be enough for you?
8. Women HATE the thought of guys getting girls through "tricks". They will never give you tips on how to catch a woman. That is why they talk about confidence, or just be yourself, or you'll find someone when you least expect it. They want a lot more than that, but they are not going to tell you. Because they want the guy to do a lot more
naturally, because he is just so awesome, not as a way to catch women.
They want you to be born James Dean, they don't want you to look and act like James Dean because you want to catch women, even if no one can tell the difference between you and the original.
A simple example: Let's say women are impressed by a guy owning a motorbike. Let's say that all other things being equal, a guy with a motorbike will look more interesting than a guy who rides a bicycle. A girl is not going to tell you that. She wants you to own a motorbike because you are a
naturally cool guy, not because you were advised that it is a way to improve your chances with women.
Women are hypocrites in this, without thinking about it. They put on makeup to increase their beauty, even though this is not natural beauty. They work out, they fix their hair, they get a tan, they put on a sexy dress. And ever since childhood they have been talking to other girls about guys, how the guys react when you do or say different things. They have no need for a SoSuave forum, because they have been in training their whole lives. Through the advice passed on from older girls to younger girls, they know how to improve their chances with the most desirable specimens of the opposite sex. But when you do the same thing, it is artificial and manipulative. So they won't give you any advice that would help you "manipulate" women.
, and they're great. Those are the times when works going well, I have some hot plates spinning, friends all have my back. But once that stuff starts to disappear, and I'm going through rough waters, my confidence and character could waiver tremendously because my confidence was based on outside forces: i.e. what people think of me, and how other people are treating me, how much money is in my bank account. It wasn't based from what's inside me. It was a false confidence. 
