Girl schooled me on the phone last night

[zekko]

That's where that phrase comes from. It doesn't mean you should stop trying to better yourself. You always should be doing that, no matter where you are in life. But when you're out picking up on the ladies, be your "best" self.....

Yeah, I totally agree. I definitely believe in being yourself. That doesn't mean you should stagnate, never learn anything, never leave your comfort zone. A man (especially) should always be trying to improve himself, and that is definitely part of being myself, because I am always wanting to improve. As I imagine most guys here do.

To be yourself means to be comfortable in your own skin, that's how I take it anyway. Everybody has their own unique type of charm, humor, etc. You might call being yourself being confident in your own self. If you're only 5'7" or whatever OWN it. Everybody has their own interests. Be yourself doesn't mean sit on the couch and never do anything. But you don't have to adopt a fake PUA personality in order to acheive anything, and that includes attracting girls.

Now you don't want to be a wimp, that's not going to benefit any man. You might say "But I'm a wimp, so if I be myself I'll be a wimp." No, as a man you have testosterone, you are not meant to be wimp. Get out there, dig deep, and be your best self.