and yet she insists on calling/textign me everyday of her life. she even gave ME her number and everything, without any effort on my part. we talk alot and have similar personalities. i hit her with the ****y funny and she likes it, but when i ask her out, she says she'll "think" about it. even my being decisive doesnt help, because she still says it. wat the hell is this? seems to me if she was into me she would jump at the chance to go out.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
girl says she'll "think" about going on a date
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So what's your question?Raikojo17 said:... seems to me if she was into me she would jump at the chance to go out.
sorry, tried to edit it but it wouldnt let me. but is this some type of game she is tryin to play? because other than that she shows very much positive interest towards me.Francisco d'Anconia said:So what's your question?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I believe that any answer other than "yes" answer is a no. Drop the subject, and move on.Raikojo17 said:and yet she insists on calling/textign me everyday of her life. she even gave ME her number and everything, without any effort on my part. we talk alot and have similar personalities. i hit her with the ****y funny and she likes it, but when i ask her out, she says she'll "think" about it. even my being decisive doesnt help, because she still says it. wat the hell is this? seems to me if she was into me she would jump at the chance to go out.
So she gets nothing! She loses! Good day, madam!
The Comeback Kid
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I agree with this.Aaron B said:She loses.
Plain and simple, she loses.
She is unwilling to go along with your program, so she loses out to the women who are truly interested in you as a person.
In these situations, I am not content with "waiting" for her to decide...I get a decision out of her, for better or for worse. No, I don't really "force" it, but I will start discussion plans for our date - this shows confidence as well. Sure, she gets the attention she wants, but it also doesn't leave you dangling. Either:
A.) You'll get the date - congrats!
B.) It's her loss.
If you get the date, then your're set. If not, then it allows you to flirt/mack with other chicks and not have this one on your mind.
I compare this to a pitcher (you) charging at a runner who is stuck between
3rd and home and the runner (girl) has to make a decision on where to go.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
Before I even read the comments below I decided it was a lost cause. Cut your strings, find someone else and see what happens. And I mean this. Do not call, text, instant message, nothing for about 2 weekends, even if she calls or texts. After that, when you call and she asks why you didn't call her, don't make up an excuse, but don't make it seem like you're changing the subject on purpose.
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
If you've got that "feeling" that she is into you, then she's probably testing you with this, "I'll think about it" crap.
Maybe your problem is you're being too open ended on how you're asking for the date (Do you want to go out sometime?)..... be specific.... say something like, "Hey let's go out Tuesday night blah blah..." If she hits you with the "I'll think about it line" then freeze her out. Let her know your not going to beg for the date like a loser. Say something like, "Oh hey... someone's knocking at my door, can I call you right back?" Then don't call her (or respond to her calls) for a few days to a week. Then call back and ask for the date again. If she pulls the same crap ditch her.
Maybe your problem is you're being too open ended on how you're asking for the date (Do you want to go out sometime?)..... be specific.... say something like, "Hey let's go out Tuesday night blah blah..." If she hits you with the "I'll think about it line" then freeze her out. Let her know your not going to beg for the date like a loser. Say something like, "Oh hey... someone's knocking at my door, can I call you right back?" Then don't call her (or respond to her calls) for a few days to a week. Then call back and ask for the date again. If she pulls the same crap ditch her.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Sounds like she wants to keep you wanting her, but she doesnt really want it. Sorry pal. Next that skank.
DJF or John
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Dude, you need to UP your sexual attitude, sexual state, seductive mindset, seductiveness.
No matter what your mother says, no matter what women say, no matter what some of these guys say on this forum.....women are ONLY going to FVCK the guy with a HIGH SEXUAL VIBE. You need to carry a high sexual state, if you don't, you AIN'T getting no azz, period.
Stop with all the theories and analyzing what she said, how she moved, how she ate her popcorn at Norbit, read Gunwitch, he explains this better than I do.
No matter what your mother says, no matter what women say, no matter what some of these guys say on this forum.....women are ONLY going to FVCK the guy with a HIGH SEXUAL VIBE. You need to carry a high sexual state, if you don't, you AIN'T getting no azz, period.
Stop with all the theories and analyzing what she said, how she moved, how she ate her popcorn at Norbit, read Gunwitch, he explains this better than I do.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
no Raikojo this chick isnt showing u positive interest. I dont know how u came up with something silly like that. Ur saying that a girl shows positive interest in a guy when she calls him and then doesnt want to go out with him. What planet have u been living on?
ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS. Its that simple. When u want to know a girls interest in u , u look at her actions. She might give u compliments, she might be phoning u ( and the reason she might be phoning u is because she loves the attention of talking to guys on the phone), but the bottom line is that her actions arent showing u she likes u. If she liked u, she would show it with her actions by going out with u.
ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS. Its that simple. When u want to know a girls interest in u , u look at her actions. She might give u compliments, she might be phoning u ( and the reason she might be phoning u is because she loves the attention of talking to guys on the phone), but the bottom line is that her actions arent showing u she likes u. If she liked u, she would show it with her actions by going out with u.
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next time she texts or calls, just tell her, "hey lets talk this over some cofee/jamba/insert other idea.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You answered your own question in your original post.Raikojo17 said:sorry, tried to edit it but it wouldnt let me. but is this some type of game she is tryin to play? because other than that she shows very much positive interest towards me.
so get this. she's now telling me to call her so we can arrange a get together. she is bringing one of her friends, and she's asking to bring one of my friends for her friend. she also agreed to our little date too, saying that she had to see wat her mom was doing first. I guess she was just playing hard to get, cuz she and her friend are tryin to get me to call her, and she's callin me "beasty",soo...
silenthill
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just wait and watch her flake
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.