"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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girl says I'll consider it

dustmuffin

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IM trying to set up a second date with two girls. One says I'll think about it. The other says I'll consider it.

Low interest. ...how to respond? Ignore? I searched the forums and didn't find a good response. Thoughts?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dude99

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IM trying to set up a second date with two girls. One says I'll think about it. The other says I'll consider it.

Low interest. ...how to respond? Ignore? I searched the forums and didn't find a good response. Thoughts?
Don't. You tried to set the date. Anything but a yes is a flat out no.

I'll consider it.......until a better option comes.
 

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IM trying to set up a second date with two girls. One says I'll think about it. The other says I'll consider it.

Low interest. ...how to respond? Ignore? I searched the forums and didn't find a good response. Thoughts?

Let them "think about it and consider it" while you instead take action and move on to the next chick who says yes to a date or second date and shows up.
 

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Just say you are moving on if they don't make a fast decision.

Why would you wait for a woman to weigh her options? The act alone suggests that she already believes she can do better. Not a good start.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"I'll 'consider' it." Lol. What?? That's just incredibly rude. You really think a woman doesn't know right away if she wants to see you again.

IGNORE, DELETE, BLOCK.
 

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Consider it over.

Unless she reaches out (and you might want to make her double text after that BS) don't contact her.

The fact two women did this tells me you need to work on your diet and hit the gym.

You should have been able to ask both girls for a three-way kiss at the same time and if they liked you they would say "OK!!"
 

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She doesnt deserve another chance after that disrespect.
 

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What on Earth sort of response is that?

The sort you ignore. There is no other answer other than "Sure" if she likes you.

Do not occupy your valuable time with lukewarm time wasters. Keep your time free for other options.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Enter the judge.

IM trying to set up a second date with two girls. One says I'll think about it. The other says I'll consider it.

I'll think about it means she wants that NBA player and if she goes out with you, she'll friendzone you. I'll consider it is the same thing. Are these motherf**kers sisters? Regardless, consider deleting their numbers and ignoring them. They're blowing you off for a better man, why not get yourself a new girl or two? These women aren't that attractive anyway, I can guarantee you that. Ask yourself, if Sofia Vergara asked you out on a date, would you tell her you'd consider it? No, your ass would make sure she's in your plan somehow.

Low interest. ...how to respond? Ignore? I searched the forums and didn't find a good response. Thoughts?

You care too much, as evidenced by you trying to find some witty-ass response. Just use these actions or a combination thereof: Ignore, erase, replace, block, get a new girl. You can do better. Actions speak louder than words. Take the high road and get these girls out of your mind.
Read between the lines. Now read the next lines.

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you, and they'll follow your lead.

Anything other than a yes with the proper actions and proof to back it up, is a no. For all intents and purposes, anything in between is a no. With that being said, "I'll think about or consider it" is guess what? Need a hint? It's not a yes. The jury isn't hung, but you will be too if you waste any more time or attention on either of these girls.

No more analysis needed. Hell, this was an open-and-shut case, I'm just giving more of a breakdown so you know what's up next time a chick pulls that sh*t.

A girl playing hard to get is simply trying to keep you as a beta orbiter. And jury, what do we do when a girl plays hard to get?

WE MOVE ON BECAUSE IT'S OTHERWISE PLAYING INTO HER FRAME WHERE SHE'S IN CONTROL AND BEING CHASED BY YOU!

With all this said, don't follow these girls. Not even on Twitter. That's my ruling, and the jury all agrees.

Case closed. Stop caring so much.

 
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