"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl says I may be "the one" but.. should I believe her?

Bible_Belt

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azanon said:
I would have a hard time not laughing if a woman said that to me. At the very least, I'd think of a quick "balancing" quip to respond to that immediately. Then, I'd think about what I said or did that even gave her the "balls" to make such a power-play statement in my presence.

The real question (if at all) should be if she is the one for you. You should be the one that's choosing, ....... or not choosing.

It is so critical to the DJ mindset to start thinking in terms of wondering how lucky a woman would be for you to pick her, not vise versa. If a woman wouldn't be super lucky for you to pick her, then you still have some work to do on you.

I was thinking exactly the same thing. :up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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azanon said:
I would have a hard time not laughing if a woman said that to me. At the very least, I'd think of a quick "balancing" quip to respond to that immediately. Then, I'd think about what I said or did that even gave her the "balls" to make such a power-play statement in my presence.

The real question (if at all) should be if she is the one for you. You should be the one that's choosing, ....... or not choosing.

It is so critical to the DJ mindset to start thinking in terms of wondering how lucky a woman would be for you to pick her, not vise versa. If a woman wouldn't be super lucky for you to pick her, then you still have some work to do on you.

Damn. This really made me think and you are absolutely right. I had this mindset when I was single and girls were obsessed with me. Now that I'm in a relationship I think I just let my guard down which SUCKS. It's easy to do this when you get too comfortable. But I'm definitely going to work on this. Appreciate the insight.


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